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You Don’t Owe The World A Status Update

“You should not be performing for other people and achieving goals for their attention. The ‘likes’, the ‘emojis’, the ‘congratulations’ are all well and good but when it comes down to it, you don’t owe the world a status update.”

Not everything in your life needs to be broadcast to other people, especially strangers. It’s preferable even to move in silence while you work towards achieving your personal goals or achievements. True self-growth is about achieving your wins in life because of your own hard work and desire and not just to seek validation from others. You should not be performing for other people and achieving goals for their attention. The ‘likes’, the ‘emojis’, the ‘congratulations’ are all well and good but when it comes down to it, you don’t owe the world a status update.

You build a legacy for yourself and not for chasing the validation of others, whether they end up giving it to you or not when your success comes to fruition. We live in a world where broadcasting every tiny move is celebrated, which is fine for those who choose to engage in it, but that’s not what your life should be focused on.

Telling people too much, especially too soon, can be bad for your goal setting and put undue pressure on you to reach that goal even more. If you fail, everyone will know who you shared the original goal with which could sting. While telling people can provide external motivation, at the same time, you are also putting a lot more stress and anxiety on yourself to perform for others because of how public you made your goal.

In my view, overexposure kills momentum and the energy you give towards outside attention can distract you from setting and achieving your goals. To give a personal example, in the past, I let some people I trusted in my life know about my goals, especially when it comes to launching a business or passing a certification for professional reasons. While I enjoyed letting those people I cared about know, I should have waited until I had achieved my goals in both areas before making it public even to close friends and family.

The sting of failure or falling short is accepted best by those closest to you but it can still hurt knowing that you may have let them down by promising more than you could deliver. Often, it’s best to wait until the goal is achieved, like having a profitable business or acing your certification before you let others know you were even working on that accomplishment to begin with.

Some things in life need space, time, and most importantly, privacy to develop like the roots of a tree as they form the foundation for growth. Self-improvement can be shared publicly but it should be thought of primarily as a private contract within yourself, and not public performance. Real growth takes a lot of time and achieving tough goals takes years, decades, and sometimes an entire lifespan.

Updating others constantly will get boring too and if you are going to update others, make sure you are only doing it when you achieve something along the path to success. Progress should be boring and predictable, and you shouldn’t need applause or praise to keep going towards your goal or objective as well.

I find that the most successful people often work in silence until its time to deliver the final result, not announce to the world that it’s in progress. Whether it’s Albert Einstein working on the e=mc(squared) result, Michael Jordan putting in the years as a teenager and college basketball player to make it to the NBA and become a legend there, or even Steve Jobs getting rejected multiple times for what would become world renowned tech products like the iMac and iPod.

These legends in different fields of mathematics, technology, and sports did not announce to the world when they made progress towards their goals, they only announced to the world that they had made it when they achieved their goals. For a personal example, I didn’t tell the world when I started a martial art, I only let it be known to people when I had been doing it for a few years and had some progress or goal achieved to show for the efforts I had made. It’s great to start towards a goal but only announce it after you’ve been grinding for a while and have achieved a result with that job or activity or passion.

Let the results do the talking when you work in silence. When your final product or achievement is ready, it’ll speak louder than any fan or hater will have to say about it when it becomes public. Again, don’t tell people or especially strangers on the Internet your plans, show them the outcomes and the results that you have achieved and maybe how you got there if you want to give that away too. I think it’s best for anybody to be devoted to improving themselves and bettering their lives with real goals is to build in peace and quiet.

Keep your head down, have a steady heart, work consistently towards your goals, whatever they may be, and do so only loud enough for you to hear them constantly, until they echo for everyone else once you’ve achieved what you set out to accomplish.

Managing Life’s Risks is a Balancing Act

“While risks often bring about growth, innovation, and personal growth, it is crucial to acknowledge that not all risks are created equal, nor do they have the same level of probability of occurring.”

What is life without a little risk involved? Life itself is an intricate and colorful tapestry woven with uncertainties, challenges, and opportunities. In navigating this profound tapestry, one cannot escape the reality that risks are an inherent part of the human experience and cannot be 100% avoided no matter how hard we try to do so. While risks often bring about growth, innovation, and personal growth, it is crucial to acknowledge that not all risks are created equal, nor do they have the same level of probability of occurring.

Therefore, it is key that your priority should be to strike a delicate balance between embracing risks for personal and professional growth and mitigating those risks that could pose threats to your health, safety, and livelihood, which is paramount to keep in mind. It is necessary to explore the importance of embracing risks to some extent, while highlighting the need for discernment and smart risk mitigation strategies.

Embracing risks is synonymous with embracing the unknown, and it is in these uncharted territories that personal and professional growth often thrives in that space. Taking risks fosters resilience, adaptability, and the ability to confront and overcome challenges in one’s life. It is through risk-taking that individuals discover their true capabilities, push their boundaries, and expand the limits of what they thought was possible.

Innovation, a driving force behind societal progress, is born from calculated risks that inventors, visionaries, and leaders have pushed for. History is filled with examples of individuals and organizations that embraced risks, leading to groundbreaking discoveries, technological advancements, and societal transformations. From the pioneering spirit of explorers venturing into the unknown waters to the entrepreneurial risk-takers who fueled economic growth; risks have been an essential ingredient in the human condition.

However, it is important to differentiate between positive risks that contribute to growth and innovation to those that can jeopardize well-being. Striking this balance requires a thoughtful approach to risk-taking, where one acknowledges the potential rewards while also recognizing the potential pitfalls.

Here are some steps to keep in mind to control or manage one’s risk-taking:

  1. Making a Risk Assessment and Evaluation: Before embarking on any venture or decision involving risk, it is imperative to conduct a thorough risk assessment. Identify potential outcomes, both positive and negative, and evaluate the likelihood of each scenario occurring. By understanding the risks involved, individuals can make informed decisions about whether the potential rewards outweigh the potential consequences involved.
  2. Set Clear Objectives and Goals: Establishing clear objectives and goals provides a framework for risk-taking. Knowing what one hopes to achieve allows for a more focused and calculated approach to risks. By aligning risks with specific objectives, individuals can better gauge the potential benefits and make decisions that align with their overarching aspirations or goals.
  3. Continuous Learning and Adaptability: Embracing risks necessitates a commitment to having continuous learning and showing adaptability. Staying informed about potential challenges and being open to adjusting strategies based on feedback and evolving circumstances are key components of smart risk-taking. This iterative process allows individuals to refine their approach while mitigating potential risks along the way.
  4. Diversification of Risks: In both personal and professional contexts, diversifying risks is a prudent strategy. This involves spreading your risks across different areas or investments rather than putting all resources or net worth into one venture. By diversifying the risks, individuals can reduce the impact of potential failures in one area, which helps with increasing overall resilience.
  5. Financial Planning and Contingency Measures: Financial stability is often at the core of risk mitigation. Developing a robust financial plan and having contingency measures in place provide a safety net in the face of unforeseen challenges. This preparation not only cushions the impact of potential setbacks but also instills a sense of confidence and security, enabling you to take calculated risks.
  6. Seeking Professional Advice: In complex situations, seeking advice from professionals in the relevant field of expertise can be invaluable. Whether it’s financial advisors, personal development mentors, or industry experts, consulting with those people who have years or decades of experience can provide insights that may not be apparent to the person who is taking the risk. Learning from the experiences and expertise of others can contribute to smarter and more informed decision-making.
  7. Prioritize Health and Well-being: Not all risks are worth taking in life, especially those that could compromise physical or mental health. Prioritizing well-being physically and mentally is non-negotiable, and any risk that poses a threat to your health should be approached with extreme caution. Buying a motorcycle to drive on the highway going 100 MPH may be a once-in-a-lifetime experience, but ask yourself beforehand, is it worth potentially risking life and limb to have that kind of experience? That is just one example of prioritizing health and well-being before jumping into a risk that could affect one’s body and mind. Recognizing the value of a healthy and vigorous life is integral to making wise decisions about the risks one is willing to embrace physically and mentally.

In the great arena that is life, risks are the threads that we weave together through moments of triumph, growth, and self-discovery. Embracing risks, to some extent, is essential for both our progress and personal development. However, it is equally important to exercise prudence and discernment, avoiding risks that could compromise one’s health, safety, and livelihood.

The steps that I outlined above provide a roadmap for keeping your risk-taking under control. From thorough assessment and goal setting to continuous learning and seeking professional advice, these strategies empower individuals to navigate the delicate balance between embracing risks and mitigating potential harm. In the pursuit of a fulfilling and successful life, it is not about avoiding risks altogether, but instead it is about making informed and smart choices that lead to personal growth, greater innovation, and increased well-being.

It Feels Good to Do Good

“The good work we do whether it’s volunteering, donating, or contributing to society in our job or a non-paid effort can not only improve the state of the world in a measurable way but also make us feel good in the process.”

It can be disconcerting to make sense of how little is within our control and how much we would like to have the world be different than it is. Whether its politics, culture, the environment, or society in general, our lack of control over these forces that have a massive impact on our lives can be difficult to make sense of. Even when we do our best to make positive change in the world, it may only cause what I have previously referred to as a ‘ripple effect.’ However, we don’t realize that not only does the good we do ripple out in the world in a small yet powerful way, but we become the better for it as a result.

The good work we do whether it’s volunteering, donating, or contributing to society in our job or a non-paid effort can not only improve the state of the world in a measurable way but also make us feel good in the process. Other people in our lives may or may not know about these contributions that we make whether it’s with our physical labor, our financial resources, or just a caring thought or gesture but if we are the ones making the effort, we should take the time to recognize its significance and the beauty of the act itself.

It does not hurt to pat yourself on the back metaphorically for showing up and doing your part. I don’t believe it is egotistical or detrimental to your self-esteem to recognize that you are taking time or money to do something good in the world. While you should not expect others to be so forthcoming in their adulation or praise of what your contribution means, you should feel good about helping others or helping nature or just being kind and caring towards your fellow man or woman.

If you feel like you’re in a rut, I truly believe volunteering some time out of your busy schedule and working towards a goal in that kind of volunteer work can really cheer you up and make you feel a bit better about the world. So much these days is out of our own control in an increasingly technologically driven, lightning-fast world where we do not have as much time to slow down and focus on what really matters, which is to leave the world better than you found it.

The work can be hard, disappointing, and even cause you to question whether it is worth your time or money but hold true to the reason why you got into doing work for the betterment of others in the first place. While it is considered a selfless act to volunteer or to donate or to work for others, do not let yourself forget that it feels good to do good and you’ll often be better off for having done that work even if it was difficult, thankless, or draining to you mentally or physically.

Having that sense of control, to work hard towards a specific goal, and to feel better for having stuck with your good work to its end are all ways that can make us feel good about doing good. People all need to feel that sense of self-worth and to have that self-esteem be boosted a bit and that can come with taking the time or money or both to contribute to the betterment of the world around you. While time and money are precious resources for which we tightly hold onto at times, perhaps too much so, it is without question a good use of time and/or money to help those people out who are less fortunate than you are.

Only you can decide how much of either precious resource, time or money, that you would like to contribute as a volunteer but I promise that whatever you decide to take upon you in terms of doing good, you can guarantee that whatever effort or work you put in will pay you back in the most beautiful way in that sense of satisfaction and contentedness you can get from healing the world or helping a person or contributing to a social cause you care about a lot.

The work involved will be difficult and you will need to put in hours, days, and sometimes months or years to see the fruit of your labor lead to the good you sought to come about as a result. The blood, sweat, and the tears you put in may not seem worth it but if you work in a group or a team with other committed people who care about the same good work that you do, not only will it be easier, but it will be done quicker.

During the good work you do, make sure to keep reminding yourself that results will take time, that you have your goals clearly in mind as to why you’re contributing to do good in the first place, and to remember that you may not get praise from others but that your own satisfaction and happiness from contributing will be most powerful as it comes from within you. We only have so much time to volunteer and to do some good on our own terms so make sure you think deeply about how you want to contribute and why you’re contributing to that cause.

Other people, even friends and family, may question why you are dedicating your time and/or your money to the good work you’re doing, but you do not need their approval to go forward with reaching your goals. You only need to deeply internalize that doing good will make not only you feel good about it but the people or environment or our world, which will be better off as a result. If you have to justify why you did the work you did, don’t look to other people to confirm your righteousness but rather look within yourself in your heart to see what you contributed was needed, that you had the skills or the knowledge to help out, and that the impact you made was measurable and that it could ‘ripple’ out through the society and the entire world.