Category: 2024

The Megacity: A Cacophony of Humanity

“Only from above can you see how such massive populations can occupy relatively small portions of the Earth, while vast stretches of land remain sparsely populated.”

Flying into a megacity offers a unique perspective on its scale as I have done countless times over the years. From the window seat of an airplane, it’s impossible to fully grasp the size of cities like Istanbul, Mexico City, São Paulo, New York, or Los Angeles—cities that house tens of millions of people. Only from above can you see how such massive populations can occupy relatively small portions of the Earth, while vast stretches of land remain sparsely populated.

In these cities, one can sense how humanity has evolved over the centuries, transitioning from primarily agricultural societies to industrial powerhouses, and now, to the complexities of a post-industrial world. The growth of cities, especially megacities, reflects humanity’s ongoing desire to improve civilization, particularly in the realms of efficiency, innovation, and social equity.

In the 21st century, megacities are projected to grow at an unprecedented rate, particularly in Africa and Asia. New cities are expected to join the ranks of those already housing tens of millions of people, with some approaching populations of 100 million. This trend of urbanization is part of a broader pattern that dates to ancient civilizations. From Ancient Rome and Babylon to Athens, our cities have always concentrated power, knowledge, culture, commerce, and industry in urban centers. With a global population of 8 billion and rising, megacities are a relatively recent development, but they reflect historical trends toward greater urbanization. This process will likely continue throughout the 21st century.

More than ever, megacities are testing grounds for technological advancements and infrastructure developments that will shape the future. Whether it’s high-speed rail, autonomous vehicles, smart electricity grids, or renewable energy sources, these cities are ideal laboratories for innovation. Given their size and complexity, megacities allow for large-scale experiments in sustainability, from energy-efficient buildings to advanced waste management systems. These cities are also at the forefront of efforts to address current environmental challenges, integrating technologies that reduce their carbon emission footprint and improve water and energy use.

With millions of people living in near proximity, megacities serve as testing grounds for the social systems that underpin modern life: healthcare, education, and public safety. Cities with large populations can quickly reveal whether social safety nets are effective or in need of reform. These urban centers provide a direct feedback loop for policy ideas and social services, offering a unique opportunity to evaluate and improve the systems that impact the quality of life. The success or failure of these initiatives in megacities often sets the tone for broader national or even global policy shifts.

Megacities are also microcosms of global culture, where different languages, customs, and traditions coexist, creating a vibrant and diverse urban fabric. This cultural mixing is a hallmark of humanity’s increasing interconnectedness. Cities with millions of people can foster greater cooperation, creativity, and tolerance, but they also present various challenges. Integrating diverse cultures and languages in ways that promote social cohesion can be difficult, especially when disparities in wealth, power, and opportunity persist. However, megacities are often sites of cultural innovation and collaboration, where new ideas are born and tested on a global stage.

Cities are often the birthplace of new political ideas and social policies. When these policies succeed, they can be scaled up and implemented nationwide or even worldwide. Urban areas, being more densely populated and diverse, offer the ideal environment for experimenting with solutions to systemic issues, such as education reform, income inequality, or civic engagement. The ability to gather immediate feedback from a large and diverse population means that cities can rapidly assess the effectiveness of new public policies, making them key players in shaping the future of society.

The rapid urbanization of the world since the industrial age brings with it both opportunities and challenges. As cities continue to grow and scale, they will increasingly become the focal points for innovations and social experiments that shape the trajectory of human civilization. At their core, cities reflect humanity’s inherent desire to evolve, improve, and create something greater than us. The drive for progress embodied in the ambition, growth, and efficiency of urban areas mirrors our collective aspiration for a better future. However, this continued growth plans to bring more complexities. As megacities expand, they face the challenge of providing a good quality of life for millions of people while managing the unintended consequences of scale, such as overcrowding, pollution, and social inequality.

The success or failure of megacities in the 21st century has global implications. As urban centers grapple with present challenges like climate change, wealth inequality, and the effects of economic globalization, the solutions they implement or fail to implement will have ripple effects across the globe. From Tokyo to Cairo, from Bogotá to Kinshasa, these cities are testing grounds for humanity’s ability to adapt to a rapidly changing world. The development of megacities is not just a local issue or an urban issue; it is a global concern that reflects our collective ability to meet the challenges of the 21st century.

The paradox of progress is that while we strive to improve our cities and societies, we must recognize the complexities of providing a high quality of life for growing populations. The ambition to create more efficient, sustainable, and equitable urban environments must be balanced with the practical realities of physical infrastructure, resource management, and social integration. If megacities are successful in making responsible choices now, they will be better equipped to meet these challenges in the future. The decisions made today will shape the cities of tomorrow and, by extension, the world at large.

As the world becomes increasingly urbanized, the fate of megacities and urban areas will be intertwined with the well-being of all people. What happens in these cities, whether positive or negative, will affect everyone, whether they live in rural, suburban, or exurban areas. The interconnectedness of our societies means that the success or failure of urban areas will have far-reaching consequences. We must ensure that the policies and solutions developed in megacities are inclusive and benefit all members of society. The prosperity of our cities is not just the concern of city dwellers, but it is a global concern too. This becomes particularly evident to me when I fly over a city or megacity, witnessing its sprawling lights and endless streets, and realizing that the future of our civilization is unfolding in these urban spaces.

Control What You Can Control

“Instead of trying to change things that we cannot control, it is best to focus solely on things that we can control and hope that we can make a positive impact on the people around us and the wider world through this kind of ‘ripple effect.’”

There is only so much that we have control over in our lives. We are constantly being influenced and affected by factors outside of our control for which we may not even have any awareness of. There are events that take place each day of our lives that can change our trajectory without us even knowing. We try to make sense of the lack of control we have but it does no good to constantly be wishing things were different if you were to have control where none exists. Instead of trying to change things that we cannot control, it is best to focus solely on things that we can control and hope that we can make a positive impact on the people around us and the wider world through this kind of ‘ripple effect.’

Life is unpredictable each day, filled with uncertainties and unknowns that can provoke anxiety, frustration, and stress within us. From work pressures to global events, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by circumstances that appear beyond our control or influence. In this chaotic and ever-changing world, I believe it’s important to adopt the mindset of “control what you can control” to foster both resilience and personal fulfillment. By focusing on what is within our reach, we gain clarity on what is most important, reduce stress, and strengthen both our mental and physical health, preparing us to navigate the complexities of life.

It’s natural to feel compelled to try to control everything or as much as we can in life, especially in a world that rewards constant achievement and control over one’s surroundings. However, trying to control things that lie outside our influence can lead to a never-ending cycle of frustration and disappointment. Conversely, focusing on what we can control allows us to feel grounded and empowered, fostering inner peace despite external turbulences.

By narrowing our focus on what we have control over, we can manage our energies better and put it toward actions that genuinely make a difference in our lives and for those around us. Concentrating on our own responses, attitudes, and habits lets us sidestep the paralyzing effect of factors beyond our control. This approach is about freeing us from wasting energy on things that simply cannot be changed. Adopting this mindset is not about giving up or avoiding the ills around us but about creating a more productive and healthy approach to life’s challenges.

It’s a fair question to ask at this point in what do we have control over? It is more than you would think based on this list below of what we can control in our life.

  1. Our Attitudes and Perspectives

How we perceive situations has a profound effect on how we experience them. While we may not control the events, we do have control over how we interpret and react to them. Developing a positive or growth-oriented mindset allows us to find lessons, strength, or motivation even in difficult situations. When we focus on what can be gained or learned from the events, setbacks become opportunities for growth rather than new sources of despair.

  1. Our Reactions and Behaviors

Our reactions are among the most tangible aspects we can control in life. Although emotions often arise involuntarily without much forethought, we can practice responding to situations in ways that align with our values. Choosing how to react, rather than allowing automatic responses to take over, is a skill that can be developed with focusing on mindfulness. This life skill enables us to handle our challenges more constructively, turning potential stressors into manageable experiences.

  1. Our Habits and Choices

The habits and routines we cultivate each day play a significant role in our quality of life. We control what we eat, what we drink, how much sleep we get, and how we manage our free time. Positive routines, such as regular exercise, limiting social media content, focusing on healthy eating, and setting aside time for relaxation, create a foundation for resilience and better health. When we invest in these areas of life, we build a stronger buffer against the impact of unexpected difficulties and changes.

  1. Our Goals and Efforts

While outcomes that happen to us or that which affect us are not always within our control, our efforts are in our control. Setting personal goals and consistently working toward them provides us with a sense of purpose and direction. Focusing on the quality of our work, rather than obsessing over the potential results, ensures that our self-worth remains stable regardless of external factors. This effort-oriented mindset helps us feel accomplished and satisfied even in unpredictable and changing environments.

Understanding what lies beyond our control is essential in practicing acceptance and letting go of what is beyond our grasp. These examples include:

  1. Other People’s Actions, Behaviors, and Opinions

Attempting to control how others think, feel, behave, or act is an exhausting and fruitless endeavor. People are influenced by their own experiences, beliefs, and emotions, which we cannot change. Rather than trying to shape others’ opinions or actions, focusing on tolerance, self-respect, and authenticity allows us to establish genuine connections without feeling responsible for people’s behaviors.

  1. External Circumstances and Events

Natural events, market trends, or political shifts are all examples of uncontrollable circumstances that happen to all of us. While we can adapt to these realities and prepare for them to some extent, we cannot dictate or know when they will occur or what the outcome(s) will be. Learning to accept and know that the world will continue to evolve with or without our influence is liberating; it relieves the pressure of feeling responsible for the many forces beyond our own reach.

  1. What Happened In The Past and What Will Happen In The Future

The past is unchangeable as we cannot go back to change anything about it and the future remains uncertain at best. While reflecting on our past experiences can provide insight and comfort to us; dwelling on past mistakes or obsessing over potential future scenarios drains our energy that could be used in the present to improve our daily lives. Embracing the present moment enables us to shape our future without being paralyzed by what it may be or what you think it could be.

When we focus on controlling what is within our reach, we naturally turn inward to cultivate resilience especially when times are tough. Investing in our mental and physical health creates a solid foundation that allows us to weather the storms of life, even those we cannot control at all.

Practicing mindfulness and self-care helps us stay present and reduces anxiety about both the present and future. Activities such as meditation, journaling, painting, or simply spending time in nature help to cultivate a calmer mind. Regular acts of self-care, such as setting boundaries, prioritizing rest, and engaging in hobbies helps nurture a strong mental state. When our minds are balanced, we’re better equipped to face challenges with a clear, calm perspective.

Physical health also supports mental resilience, making daily exercise, balanced nutrition, and sufficient rest, vital components of handling stress and anxiety. Physical exercise releases endorphins, boosts our mood, and reduces out stress. When our bodies are well-nourished and strong from exertion, we can face life’s uncertainties and changes with more stamina and energy.

We can always control who we spend time within our personal lives. Building meaningful connections with others we care about creates a network of support, which is especially important when facing various challenges. We cannot control how others act, but we can control the energy we put into cultivating positive relationships. Trusted friends, family, or networking groups offer encouragement, perspective, and comfort during tough times.

Developing a growth mindset will serve you well throughout life especially in being able to exert more control in areas of professional and personal development. It is key to have an openness to learning from every situation, which helps us adapt and thrive both in the workplace and at home. Life rarely goes exactly as planned, but those who can adapt to those changes we cannot control maintain resilience and will be better off as a result. Investing time in learning new skills, embracing change as much as possible, and nurturing a lifelong curiosity and inquisitiveness empowers each of us to see life’s challenges as opportunities for growth and improvement.

Adopting this philosophy of “control what you can control” is not easy to do but it does empower us to live more peaceful, healthy, and balanced lives. By focusing on what we truly have influence or control over such as our attitudes, learning, reactions, habits, and health builds resilience and clarity. Accepting that certain aspects of life are beyond our control frees us from futile worry and frustration as a result. In this way, we prepare ourselves to not only withstand life’s uncertainties but to thrive amid them, cultivating inner strength and well-being. In the end, it is not about being able to control life itself; rather it is about becoming the best stewards of ourselves as we navigate the beautiful, unpredictable, and uncertain journey that is life itself.

My First Attempt at Spanish Poems (Mis Primeros Poemas en Español)

My First Attempt at writing poetry in the Spanish language, which is my second language. I have five poems here and hope to write more in the future. Muchas gracias por leer mis palabras aqui.

  1. En La Noche

Yo te pienso en la noche.

Yo extraño tu presencia.

Con las estrellas tan brillantes.

En frente de la luna mas grande.

Yo veo tu cara y tu sonrisa.

_____________________

2. Me Hace Falta

Cada dia que yo vivo,

Extrañando como vivi contigo.

No puedo continuar sin ti.

Recordando tu sonrisa y tu besos.

Me hace falta tu presencia.

_____________________

3. Azul

Me toco la guitarra esta noche.

Pensando en el mar y el lago azul.

Es como nadar en tus ojos azules.

Hasta el fin de mi vida.

_____________________

4. Estoy De Pie

Aqui, estoy de pie

No se por donde vaya.

Pensando en mis pasos proximos.

En tu mundo donde quisiera estar.

Porque aqui no puedo continuar.

____________________

5. Viajero Gringo

Soy viajero gringo

Eso no voy a cambiar.

Pensando en el mundo entero.

Quiero vivir asi, porque este mundo

Es siempre un parte de mi corazon.

Be Careful Of Who You Associate With

“One key trait that is often undervalued is knowing how to spot someone who is not just friendly, kind, and decent but who values this kind of traits and characteristics in other people whom they surround themselves with professional and/or personally.”

A good way to examine someone’s character and moral values is who they surround themselves with. Whether they are a friend, a family member, a public figure, or even someone in the workplace, you can tell a lot about someone based on who they spend their time with or confide in. One key trait that is often undervalued is knowing how to spot someone who is not just friendly, kind, and decent but who values this kind of traits and characteristics in other people whom they surround themselves with professional and/or personally.

You must be able to get comfortable with both analyzing and understanding how other people act and whether their behavior or their personality will not just be good for you but also whether it is good for other people too. It’s often overlooked but being able to assess accurately the character of a man or a woman is key to keeping potential trouble or problems out of your life as a result. It can take a lot of time to really get to the heart of who someone is but if you feel that you want to truly know that person deeply and how they act not only to you but towards other people, it’s important to spend a lot of time around them not only privately but publicly as well to get a real sense of who they are.

Remember that who you surround yourself with by choice reflects either good or bad on you. We can’t choose our family members, but we can choose who are friends are, who we have a relationship with, which work colleagues we mentor or learn from, and our other associates in our network of personal or professional connections, however casual they may be to us. If you don’t take the time to truly assess someone’s moral compass, their character, and their overall behavior, you may be drawn into negative situations or circumstances that could affect your life badly.

Do not put yourself into those kinds of negative situations in life by choice where you could have instead cut ties with the person(s) who were affecting your life poorly. Be able to say ‘no’, walk away, maintain your distance, or cut ties permanently to preserve your own peace and your own moral character. It is extremely important in life to avoid the sycophants, suckups, liars, cronies, fools, toadies, goons, and flunkeys who can make our life much more complicated or worse as a result.

Life is too short to hang around people of poor behavior and character especially when you have a choice in the matter. That is why it is so key to be careful of the people who you associate with freely. I encourage everyone reading these words to take seriously how you size up your fellow man or woman even if it is a casual connection or someone in your general network of connections. Who you surround yourself with says a lot about a person and you do not want your connections or friends or network to reflect poorly on you.

It is often said that a man’s / woman’s reputation is built over decades but can be lost in minutes or hours. Surround yourself with people of moral fiber and good character and your reputation will be positive as a result. There are so many numerous examples of public figures or well-known people in our society who do such a poor job of surrounding themselves with the right people and it harms so many others as a result. People who cannot judge the character of someone well enough should have no business being a leader or overseeing a company, organization, or a country. Judgment of character is a key skill that must be honed over the course of our lives whether it is thinking of having that person as a friend, a romantic partner, or a business associate.

When you can judge character well and find good people to surround yourself with, the benefits of doing so will reverberate throughout your life. You will have much less stress, anxiety, and experience much less negativity as a result. Your own reputation won’t suffer, and you’ll be able to spend time better with those good people creating both positive experiences and the good memories from them. In addition, you want to have people not only of good character and moral fiber but to have people around you who will tell you the truth, tell you what they really think, let you know when you’re messing up, and who will support you during the good times and the bad.

Being around people who lie to you, mislead you, talk about you behind your back, kiss up to you, or act phony around you are not worth the time or the effort to keep around you at all. It takes a while to really get to know someone but if you let people who you don’t vet or don’t really get to know into your life especially your inner, private life, you are asking for trouble as a result. Maybe you will have fewer friends or a smaller professional network because of your own vetting or analysis of people around you but to me, it’s always better to have a few true friends and associates than a bunch of liars, sycophants, and phonies who tell you what you want to hear rather than what you need to hear.

Please be careful of who you associate with whoever they may be. Be sure to know how to evaluate and assess the people in your life and believe in your own intuition of who a person is and whether they deserve to be part of your life. Remember that who you surround yourself with reflects who you are as a person. Don’t try to be everyone’s friend and have suspect people in your life as a result. Find people of strong moral character, vet them well, and make sure you and they continue to do good and be good to themselves and to others in life.

‘Mystic River’ – Film Review and Analysis

“This book-to-film adaptation, praised for its emotional intensity and thematic complexity, remains one of Eastwood’s most acclaimed directorial efforts to this day. Mystic River is a powerful combination of stellar performances, masterful direction, evocative cinematography, and a carefully crafted screenplay making the film a standard bearer of cinematic storytelling.”

Mystic River, directed by Clint Eastwood in 2003 and starring an amazing cast including Sean Penn, Kevin Bacon, and Tim Robbins, is an intricate and darkly intense film that has left a lasting impact on audiences and critics alike since it first came out in theaters over two decades ago. Based on Dennis Lehane’s novel of the same name, the film explores deep themes of trauma, guilt, vengeance, and the ways in which past experiences haunt the present and future. This book-to-film adaptation, praised for its emotional intensity and thematic complexity, remains one of Eastwood’s most acclaimed directorial efforts to this day. Mystic River is a powerful combination of stellar performances, masterful direction, evocative cinematography, and a carefully crafted screenplay making the film a standard bearer of cinematic storytelling.

The plot begins in a working-class Boston neighborhood, not too far from the Mystic River, and centers on three childhood friends: Jimmy Markum (Sean Penn), Sean Devine (Kevin Bacon), and Dave Boyle (Tim Robbins). As young boys, the trio spends their days together, playing stick ball, hockey, exploring the neighborhood, and strengthening their bond as friends. However, one traumatic incident forever changes their lives, marking them all in ways that will resonate through their adult years. Decades later, their lives intertwine once more when Jimmy’s teenage daughter, Katie, is found murdered, prompting a deep and painful investigation into both the current crime and the unresolved scars of the past for each of the three main characters.

Set against the gritty, blue-collar backdrop of Eastwood’s Boston, the environment reflects the rough and bleak outlook shared by many of the characters, most of whom never left the neighborhood as adults. This urban setting becomes almost a character, embodying a sense of entrapment and suffocation and what ifs. Eastwood and the film’s cinematographer, Tom Stern, create a cold, foreboding atmosphere that mirrors the psychological darkness of the characters. The use of shadows and natural light throughout the film provides an eerily realistic tone, further immersing the audience in the story’s weighty themes. As a film, Mystic River, sets itself apart by giving each character room to grow and develop over the course of the two and half hours of screentime. Each of them has a unique backstory despite the overlap and they each have their own personal scars and demons to bear.

To understand the film better as an audience, we must go through each character’s backstory, motives, and circumstances:

  1. Jimmy Markum (Sean Penn) – Jimmy is a reformed ex-convict who did two years in prison who now runs a local convenience store. He’s fiercely loyal to his family, especially his beloved daughter, Katie, who he has tried to shield her from his checkered past. His character is marked by a volatile personality and a deeply ingrained sense of loyalty, one that can easily turn to vengeance, if provoked. This trait becomes particularly apparent when Katie’s murder brings his hidden rage and pain to the surface. Penn’s portrayal of Jimmy is raw and gut-wrenching; he conveys a sense of intense, bottled-up pain that feels as if it could erupt at any moment at any one person who he is feels is responsible or partly responsible for her murder. Jimmy’s background as a former criminal, his letting his emotions cloud his judgment, and the rawness of the recent loss of his daughter drive much of his actions, adding layers of complexity to his character.
  2. Sean Devine (Kevin Bacon) – Sean, one of Jimmy and Dave’s friends, is now a detective with the Massachusetts State Police who is investigating Katie’s murder, and his ties to Jimmy and Dave complicate the case. Although he’s become more distant over the years from both men, Sean feels a sense of duty and friendships to bring closure to Katie’s murder and perhaps, in turn, to his own fractured past. His unresolved feelings about the childhood trauma shared by him, Jimmy, and Dave gives his character a detached yet conflicted edge. Kevin Bacon’s performance as Sean is understated but poignant, particularly as Sean grapples with the uncomfortable ties between his childhood friendships and the demands of justice. Sean’s role in the story is not just as a detective but as someone attempting to reconcile his past with his present responsibilities. During the film, we also give glimpses into Sean’s present struggles with an estranged spouse and his own personal turmoil surrounding his commitment to his job as detective, which may have led him astray from the woman he loves.
  3. Dave Boyle (Tim Robbins) – Dave is the most visibly affected by the traumatic events of his childhood because he is the one who was physically and emotionally abused until he escaped from the nightmare one day, and Robbins’ portrayal of a victim of child abuse is haunting. As a result of the childhood abduction and abuse, Dave is marked by a pervasive sadness and paranoia that set him apart from others including Jimmy and Sean. Married with a son now, he still struggles with feelings of inadequacy, unresolved trauma, and the psychological scars left by his past. His character raises questions about the psychological ramifications of unresolved trauma, and Robbins plays Dave with a quiet and unsettling vulnerability as he is a boy trapped in a man’s body who never got to really grow up into what he wanted to be. This kind of trauma and sadness culminates in behavior that others in the film including his wife interpret as suspicious, especially as Sean’s investigation of Katie’s murder begins to close in around him. Dave’s struggle for normalcy and acceptance is central to the film’s portrayal of trauma and his seeking redemption for what had happened to him in the past, through no fault of his own.
  4. Celeste Boyle (Marcia Gay Harden) – Celeste, Dave’s wife, represents the emotional turmoil that affects loved ones in the wake of trauma. Marcia Gay Harden’s portrayal brings depth to the character of Celeste, illustrating the complexity of being married to a man who is emotionally distant and troubled. Her suspicions and insecurities about Dave’s behavior create tension within their marriage, which becomes another focal point in the larger mystery of what Dave was doing on the night of Katie’s murder. Through Celeste, the film explores how the impact of trauma reverberates through relationships, and her doubts contribute to the suspense as she becomes uncertain of Dave’s innocence.

The thematic core of Mystic River lies in its exploration of personal trauma and its long-lasting effects on those around the affected person. Eastwood skillfully illustrates how the characters’ pasts influence their present, emphasizing the psychological toll of unhealed wounds. The trauma of Dave’s abduction and abuse is a powerful throughline, shaping his entire personality and decisions, and is indirectly responsible for the fractures in his relationships, friendships, and the suspicions cast upon him, whether justified or not. The themes of guilt and retribution are intricately woven into the story, particularly through Jimmy’s character, as he vacillates between his roles as a loving father and a man haunted by his own past mistakes and violent tendencies.

The film also dives into the notion of justice, both formal and informal, in our world. Sean’s role as a Massachusetts State Police detective represents the lawful pursuit of justice, yet the lack of resolution to certain aspects of his past shows how incomplete the law can be in addressing psychological scars, especially in a community where the lawful pursuit of justice is looked upon with skepticism especially by Jimmy. Jimmy, on the other hand, seeks a more personal form of justice, operating on a visceral level almost as a vigilante for Katie and the community who were also affected by her loss, guided by his own sense of right and wrong. This contrast between official justice and personal retribution forms one of the central tensions in the film and between Jimmy and Sean, estranged friends who are brought back together because of Katie’s murder.

Mystic River subtly but powerfully engages with a subtle theme tied to the Catholic Church and refers to one of Dave’s abusers in the early part of the film’s plot. This also is shown in the film particularly in the Catholic Church’s allusions to the trauma and secrecy that have historically been associated with the institution, especially around issues of child abuse. Although the film does not explicitly delve into the church’s scandals, the storyline of Dave’s childhood abduction and abuse parallels the real-life abuse scandals within the Catholic Church that would become a dominant public conversation in the years following the film’s release in 2003. The film portrays the silence, guilt, and repression surrounding trauma for abuse victims, especially for male victims, in ways that align with the complex and devastating effects of institutional abuse later revealed in widespread reports that came out in the 2000s and 2010s.

Eastwood’s sensitive handling of these themes amplifies the emotional impact of the film, allowing Mystic River to serve as a quiet commentary on the long-lasting scars left by abuse, trauma, and lives that could have been different. The cultural resonance of the film deepened as these themes became more publicly discussed, especially with the Boston Archdiocese scandal coming to light just months before the movie’s release and other subsequent revelations about abuse within the Catholic Church. The film’s nuanced portrayal of silence and trauma thus became eerily relevant, mirroring real-world struggles for justice, accountability, and healing.

Eastwood’s direction in Mystic River is marked by a disciplined, almost minimalist style that avoids sensationalism or quick cuts and jumps. His choice is to keep the film grounded in the characters’ experiences, which creates an immersive atmosphere, allowing the audience to connect deeply with each character’s journey because they are fully fleshed out individuals by the end of the film to us. By focusing on small, authentic details—the cold, grim environment, the weathered textures of Boston’s streets, and the understated settings within homes and local establishments in the neighborhoods surrounding the Mystic River, Eastwood crafts a world that feels palpably real and one we can believe in as viewers.

Cinematographer Tom Stern contributes to this atmosphere by using a muted color palette dominated by grays, blues, and other cold tones, mirroring the bleak outlooks of the characters and their surroundings. The naturalistic lighting helps underscore the characters’ emotional states, with shadows and half-lit scenes, hinting at hidden secrets and unresolved traumas. The camera work is frequently restrained, using lingering shots that capture subtle shifts in the actors’ expressions, allowing their performances to be the focal point of each scene.

As an adaptation, Mystic River succeeds largely because of Brian Helgeland’s screenplay, which translates Lehane’s complex narrative into a visually evocative and emotionally rich script. Helgeland captures the essence of the novel’s psychological tension and moral ambiguity without resorting to heavy exposition, instead allowing the characters’ actions and interactions to reveal their deeper motivations and conflicts. The adaptation retains the novel’s depth by focusing on character development rather than plot mechanics, preserving the source material’s thematic weight.

The film’s pacing, controlled by Eastwood’s direction, also serves the adaptation well even at two and a half hours long in length. Rather than racing toward revelations, the narrative unfolds gradually, mirroring the pace of real life in how trauma is dealt with and the need for closure. This approach preserves the novel’s introspective tone, making it not just a crime thriller but a meditation on human resilience, the search for true justice, and the impact of unresolved pain.

Mystic River stands out as a masterclass in adapted screenwriting, direction, and performance. It is perhaps one of the greatest films in this young 21st century as well. Eastwood’s subtle yet unrelenting vision creates a haunting atmosphere that perfectly matches Lehane’s themes of trauma, revenge, and the flawed pursuit of justice. The ensemble cast delivers compelling performances, each actor bringing depth to their own character’s unique struggles and inner turmoil. With Stern’s atmospheric cinematography, the gritty Boston setting feels almost oppressive, creating a visual landscape as intense as the narrative itself.

Through its slow-burn approach, Mystic River probes deeply into the characters’ psyches and decisions, making the experience both unsettling and profoundly affecting. The result is a powerful film that not only respects its source material but elevates it, offering a cinematic experience that explores the human capacity for both destruction and redemption. Eastwood’s restrained direction, combined with the richness of Lehane’s story, makes Mystic River a film that resonates long after the final frame comes to an end.

The Woeful Encouragement of Slothful Behavior

“There’s always been the drive to encourage people to gamble, to smoke, to drink, to eat (and quite a lot of eating), or for prescription pills, but I don’t remember a time in my life where it was so present or in your face.”

It seems as if lately popular advertising and commercials are geared towards encouraging ‘slothful’ or lazy behavior. How many times have you seen marketing focused on satiating one’s appetite whether that’s for sports betting, general gambling, fast food, alcohol, or other forms of indulgence?

Instant gratification seems to rule the day in terms of today’s popular media and advertising, which didn’t use to be case as much in past years. There’s always been the drive to encourage people to gamble, to smoke, to drink, to eat (and quite a lot of eating), or for prescription pills, but I don’t remember a time in my life where it was so present or in your face.

Now, I have nothing against people indulging here and there especially as responsible adults and I do think moderation rather than total abstention or condemnation of legal indulgences should be preferred in terms of popular messaging. However, I don’t believe it should be as prominent as it is today or as how much it is in our faces today without any serious acknowledgement of how addictive or abusive these behaviors can be.

For example, sports betting and gambling used to be quite limited to in person casinos or only certain areas or jurisdictions where it’s legal, but now it’s widespread and being actively encouraged through big business and even with live updates on betting possibilities during many sporting events. Yes, there is messaging about gambling or betting addictions but those kinds of preventative messages about the dangers of that kind of addiction are heavily outweighed by how easy it’s become to place a bet or multiple bets, and how openly encouraged it has become by the mass media. It used to be much harder to bet or to gamble especially on sports and it required a real effort or at least something you had to do in a physical location or area, but now it’s captured the digital world and can take milliseconds to make a bet or place a wager.

I do think it is a morally troubling area in our society now, where sporting venues, companies, or sports TV channels are encouraging sports betting and gambling and while it’s legal, I do think many young people, especially young men, are being taken advantage of as a result. While I encourage legal pursuits of pleasure and sustenance for food, drink, or gambling, what I do not like is how pervasive it has become and how it can become predatory with the amount of advertising, marketing, commercials, and societal pressure that is being put on people to indulge as much as possible and as often as possible.

There is a clear difference in my view between making something legal to do and making it overtly available and powerful as a lobby or industry. With addictive behaviors around food, drink, gambling, or other pleasures, there must be stricter regulations involved especially surrounding how big business these areas are and how much advertising and marketing can be done for them and in which venue(s) or place(s). There has to be a much better job done with enforcing limits, regulations, and where the advertising can be done. I also think the dangers of addiction need to have more airtime or attention as a result if these behaviors are to be marketed freely.

Similarly to smoking, restricting where you can smoke, increasing the price for smoking cigarettes, cigars, or vapes, and then placing strong notices about the physical harms of smoking has helped regulate that kind of industry successfully in my view without making it entirely illegal or condemning it fully. People can still smoke responsibly but they know today more than ever the dangers involved and the risks to one’s health as well as it being an addictive habit. You also don’t see as many commercials or advertisements for smoking as you did twenty or thirty years ago. You still do have the advertising to some degree, but I think it’s an area of our society where the regulations, awareness of the risks and dangers, and the potential side effects are quite clear compared to other vice industries today.

Additionally, if it can be done for what was a titanic industry like smoking cigarettes and other tobacco products, there is no reason why those same regulations and rules can’t be brought in for advertising of gambling, sports betting, prescription drugs, unhealthy foods, or alcohol. There has been a lax recently for those industries especially for prescription drugs, which the U.S. is one of the few countries in the world, which allows TV and radio advertisements for prescription drugs. Many of these drugs may be approved by a regulatory agency but the actual side effects and risks are not clearly stated in public advertising and the risks are also not known to potential customers as much as they should be. Like those prescription drugs being advertised freely with the side effects and risks being shortchanged in advertising, that is where we are today with legal sports betting and gambling.

I do think there has to be more action taken to regulating these growing vice or pleasure industries with less advertising out in the open, more acknowledgement by those companies selling these services on the clearly known risks and addictions and making sure that the sports teams or venues themselves and the TV / radio partners cannot market these companies either. Fast food, alcohol, and increasingly legal marijuana are also areas of vice that could do a much better job of highlighting their risks of addiction, abuse, or the dangers of too much use to one’s health.

Lastly, with better regulation of vice industries, there should be a countermovement in my view of encouraging healthy forms of behavior in our popular media and advertising. Yes, you have some advertisements for the gym or health clubs, but rarely do you see healthy foods being advertised or how to be mentally fit in difficult times, or how to have use better judgment in our financial lives, our relationships and friendships. These kinds of messages may need more public service announcements (PSAs) rather than your typical free market advertisements, but companies and especially the popular media should be encouraging people to both be healthier mentally and physically overindulging in vices that when not moderated, can encourage slothful behavior.

Where we are today as a society in our popular media is not healthy. Instead of openly encouraging these vices, we should be prioritizing healthier behaviors and more productive uses of our time. I’m not using against these legal vices, but I think their presence has been too much, too soon, and there needs to be more regulation of them in popular media and advertising going forward.

While these vices are fun for people to indulge in responsibly, the messages corporations and individuals are sending us are too much in terms of encouragement of these vices without equally talking about potentials risks, harms, or negative consequences of possible abuse if not carefully used. I hope we can start to encourage more positive forms of media and advertising with regards to keeping people healthier, fitter, and with better behaviors in how they both spend their time and their money.

The Why of Atonement

“However, beyond its religious connotations, atonement serves a profound purpose in individual personal development and promoting social cohesion.”

Atonement, the process of seeking forgiveness for wrongdoings, mistakes, or outright sins, is deeply ingrained in human cultures for millennia, especially within the framework of the three major monotheistic religions. However, beyond its religious connotations, atonement serves a profound purpose in individual personal development and promoting social cohesion.

When we seek atonement privately or in public, it is not merely for the sake of appeasing others or a higher power that we may believe in. Often, it is instead for our own psychological healing and moral growth throughout the course of our lives. This lifelong process of self-reflection and reconciliation is vital for both personal improvement and societal progress.

Atonement plays a central role in the three major monotheistic religions: Judaism, Christianity, and Islam. Each religious tradition emphasizes the importance of repentance, asking for forgiveness, and making amends for past wrongdoing, albeit with distinct interpretations and practices unique to each religion.

In Judaism, atonement and seeking repentance is a core theme of the religion, especially during the recent holiday of Yom Kippur that just past last week, also known as, the Day of Atonement. This holy day in the Jewish calendar is marked by fasting from both food and drink for 24 hours, prayer, and introspection, where individuals seek forgiveness from God for their sins. However, Jewish teaching also emphasizes that for sins committed against other people, one must seek forgiveness directly from the person who was harmed or affected. Atonement, therefore, in the Jewish tradition, is not just a divine transaction but also a social responsibility.

In Christianity, atonement is primarily associated with the sacrifice of Jesus Christ, whose death is seen as a means for the reconciliation between God and humanity. However, Christians are also encouraged to confess their sins, seek forgiveness, and repent in their daily lives. This process of confession and reconciliation allows individuals to reflect on their shortcomings and work towards spiritual and moral renewal. The act of confession is usually done with a priest or a church leader privately, but it can also be done between the person who committed the wrongful act and the person(s) who were affected by it, like Judaism.

In Islam, atonement is closely linked to the concept of “tawbah” or repentance. Muslims are encouraged to seek forgiveness from God for their sins with sincerity and to avoid repeating the wrongdoing(s) again. The emphasis in Islam is on turning away from sin and seeking to live a righteous life in accordance with God’s will. Similarly to Judaism and Christianity, there is a focus on seeking forgiveness from those who have been wronged, which underscores the social dimension of atonement.

While the specific rituals and interpretations of atonement may vary, all the major monotheistic religions recognize the need for repentance, forgiveness, and moral correction. This demonstrates the universal human need to reconcile with the divine and the society when we err and do wrong.

Beyond religious imperatives, atonement serves as a powerful tool for personal development. By acknowledging our mistakes and seeking to rectify them, we embark on a journey of self-awareness and moral growth. The process of doing atonement often involves deep self-reflection and introspection. We are supposed to recognize not only the harm or indignity we may have caused others but also the deeper motivations behind our actions. This introspection allows us to understand our flaws, learn from our mistakes, and ultimately become better individuals.

Atonement, when done well, fosters emotional and psychological healing. Guilt and remorse, if left unchecked, can burden the conscience and prevent personal growth from ever occurring in the person who committed the wrongdoing. When we make amends, we release ourselves from the emotional weight of guilt, allowing us to move forward with a clearer conscience and a stronger sense of purpose. Atonement, then is not just about seeking forgiveness from others or from a higher power, but about forgiving ourselves and allowing ourselves the grace to grow.

Atonement also plays a crucial role in maintaining overall societal harmony and prosperity. No human society can function without a mechanism or a method for individuals to acknowledge and make amends for their wrongdoings. In fact, many legal and social systems are built around the concept of atonement, whether through restitution, punishment, or reconciliation. By allowing individuals the opportunity to atone for their mistakes, societies can offer a healthy path toward rehabilitation and reintegration rather than perpetual condemnation and disownment.

In a world where mistakes and sins are inevitable, the ability to atone ensures that all individuals are not defined solely by their errors and wrongdoing. Instead, they are given the opportunity to learn, grow, and go on to contribute positively to society. A society that does not allow for any kind of atonement, religious or secular, risks fostering resentment and alienation, while a society that encourages repentance and forgiveness cultivates greater compassion, empathy, and unity.

The act of Atonement is a deeply human practice that transcends religious boundaries. While monotheistic religions emphasize the importance of repentance and forgiveness, atonement also serves as a key tool for personal development and societal cohesion. By seeking atonement, we not only make amends for our wrongdoings but also embark on a path of self-improvement and to not make the same mistakes again. As individuals and as part of a society, the ability to atone allows us to learn from our mistakes, to heal from guilt, and build a more just and compassionate world.

‘The Perfect Storm’ – Film Review and Analysis

“In the fantastic 2000 film, ‘The Perfect Storm’, you get to see what it is like to be a full-time swordfish boat captain and his crew out of Gloucester, Massachusetts, who rely on catching enough fish, and specifically big swordfish, to make ends meet.”

How far would you go to risk it all? If you had a family to provide for, a roof to keep over your head, or in need of enough money to make it through the next week or month, would you take up a livelihood that would often put your life at risk. If you are a fisherman or a fisherwoman especially those men and women who go hundreds or thousands of miles from home to do so, you know what it’s like to put your life at risk for your life’s work. In the fantastic 2000 film, ‘The Perfect Storm’, you get to see what it is like to be a full-time swordfish boat captain and his crew out of Gloucester, Massachusetts, who rely on catching enough fish, and specifically big swordfish, to make ends meet.

Whether or not you may be familiar with the lives of the fishermen and women who make catching fish their livelihoods, you cannot argue with how vital their jobs are to local economies like Gloucester. It’s not just Massachusetts but you consider the role fishing or crabbing or shrimping plays in states like Maine, Alaska, Louisiana, and elsewhere, which can provide a comfortable life for some while others struggle to make it depending on both the size and quality of their daily or weekly catch.

‘The Perfect Storm’ film, which is based upon a non-fiction novel of the same name, which was originally published in 1997 by talented American author Sebastian Junger, details the very rare occurrence in storm weather history from 1991, when a large-scale nor-easter or what’s known as an extratropical cyclone absorbed Hurricane Grace coming from off the coast of the southeastern United States. A lot of coastal damage and flooding occurred from this rare occurrence, but the worst effects happened to those vessels caught in between as the storms absorbed each other’s strength out in the north Atlantic.

Back in 1991, when technology was not as advanced, fishing boats did not have an advanced GPS and had to rely on old school maps, and did not have access to the latest weather reports. The one thing keeping them from being in the dark ages was an antenna and a fax allowing them to get reports via radio or from a machine. For the Andrea Gail fishing vessel, tragically, they were not able to avoid the worst of the ‘Perfect Storm’ and tragically, six men out of Gloucester lost their lives at the end of October 1991.

More than 24 years after the film’s release, it is considered maybe not as accurate to Junger’s book in terms of what were the last moments of the Andrea Gail or what the decision-making was like when Captain Frank William ‘Billy’ Tyne decided to go further out into the Flemish Cap beyond the Grand Banks where he and his crew usually fished in order to go above and beyond to bring back a catch that all of Gloucester would be able to appreciate.

While I admit that I have not read the book yet but hope to do so soon, ‘The Perfect Storm’ is one of those rare Hollywood disaster films that does not trivialize the risk that these men and women take to make a living as fishermen/women. ‘The Perfect Storm’ does a good job in fleshing out Billy Tyne and his five crew members, Robert ‘Bobby’ Shatford, Dale ‘Murph’ Murphy, David ‘Sully’ Sullivan, Michael ‘Bugsy’ Moran, and Alfred Pierre, and honors their memory by the actors who portray them such as George Clooney, Mark Wahlberg, and John C. Reilly.

The film sets up the story quite well including how a smaller than average catch or a lesser return on investment can put a strain on a captain and crew to go out sooner than they would want in the hopes that they can change their luck with the fishing ‘gods.’ It’s clear that these men and women are brave, bold, and love what they do regardless of the risk involved. They know the risk involved, are willing to do what it takes to feed their families and to put a roof over their heads, and even though the risks may outweigh the benefits, as Captain Billy Tyne says as part of the film’s opening monologue, “you know what? you’re a goddamn sword boat captain, is there anything better in the world?”

As ‘The Perfect Storm’ makes clear, this job is more than just a job, it’s a livelihood and a lifestyle for fishing communities like Gloucester, Massachusetts, which has had generations of fishermen for over four centuries since before the United States of America became a country. It is part of the identity of those towns and communities like Gloucester. When fishing is all that, you knew as a child from your parents, grandparents, and beyond, why wouldn’t it be what you attach your livelihood to as an adult?

In 1991, I’d imagine that the job itself had higher risk, but higher rewards given how lucrative it could be when the seas were not overfished or not as affected by climate change as they are now in 2024. The film does not judge the sword boat fishermen for the risks they make during that fateful period in late October 1991 because we will never hear from the six men who lost their lives then tragically.

We only have glimpses into their thought processes or the lack of information they had to make at the time. They not only had to contend with the stress of an ice machine breaking down, but also with not being able to fish as well in the Grand Banks, have an arrogant boss who owned the boat and was expecting them to deliver or face the consequences of losing their place on the Andrea Gail. A crew is also forced together in tight quarters for days or weeks at a time and they may end up disliking or fighting each other. There are also mishaps with a misplaced fishing trap, an errant wave casting a man overboard, or even catching an accidental shark that can harm or kill you if you are not careful.

Being a sword boat fisherman or woman is not for the weary or the weak-hearted. It is for sturdy, strong, and risk-takers who love what they do because they do what they love. It is not usually a job that you can get very wealthy from, but it can provide stability, a livelihood, and help you provide for your wife or husband or for a family if you do well enough. The film does an excellent job on not making the actors who play the six men of the Andrea Gail who lost their lives in ‘The Perfect Storm’ as caricatures but they really feel as they do exist and still exist today in terms of what they do for a living.

Their backgrounds, their motivations, their fears, and their doubts are fully fleshed out over the course of the film. The story is intriguing especially since it happened and was a tragic event in 1991 that affected millions of people in North America. We also think about how storms such as hurricanes are still with us today and are affecting people around the country regardless of if we believe that it can happen to us or not. We are always at the whims of mother nature, and we must realize that it’s important to be prepared for whatever it may throw at us regardless of if we are on land, sea, or air.

The men of the Andrea Gail knew that their job entailed risks, but they also knew that the love of the work, the livelihood and purpose it brought them, and how much it meant to others for what they did will help enshrine their memory in the hearts of their fellow Gloucester men and women forever as well as around the country and the world. Each man had love not just for the ocean, but also a love for their friends, family, and loved ones, which shines through in the film adaptation of ‘The Perfect Storm.’

One of the most beautiful parts of the film for me is when one of the youngest crewmen on the Andrea Gail, Robert ‘Bobby’ Shatform, who loses his life in the storm, tells his girlfriend Christina in a dream where she envisions him being there with her, for the last time, “Remember I’ll always love you, Christina, I’ll love you now, and I’ll love you forever. There’s no Goodbye, only love.”

The lives of the six men who were lost tragically at the end of October 1991 live on forever in the hearts and memories of the people they loved and for the lives they touched in Gloucester and elsewhere. The movie, ‘The Perfect Storm’ is a great tribute to who they were, what they did for a living, and the courageous and bold actions they took to make a living and to help feed others in that community and elsewhere with their lives as fishermen.

I hope you’ll watch this excellent film and read the book it’s based on as I hope to do so for the latter soon. Between an excellent cast, great story pacing, stirring music from the dearly departed composer James Horner, beautiful cinematography, and impactful visuals that have held up to this day almost 25 years later since the film’s original release, ‘The Perfect Storm’ is an excellent movie and one of my favorite films I’ve ever watched.

I’ll leave you with the entire portion of the excellent monologue from the film’s opening and closing scenes to describe the lived experience of being a fisherman or women out on the sea and the pure joy and peace it can bring them when they are heading out to the sea:
“The fog’s just lifting, you throw off your bowline, throw off your stern, you move out the South Channel, past Rocky Neck and Ten pound Island, past Niles Pond — where I skated as a kid — on to Black Bess Point, blow your airhorn, and throw a wave to the lighthouse keeper’s kid on Thatcher Island — then the birds arrive — Blackbacks and Herring Gulls, Big Dump Ducks and Green-Legged Coots. The sun hits you; you head north and open up to twelve — steaming now — the guys are busy and you’re in charge…And you know what? You’re a goddamn sword boat captain. Is there anything better in the world?”

The Importance of Being Reliable and Responsive to People

“It is important to be both reliable and responsive to the people you care about and even to those you’re just getting to know if you can do so.”

How many times have you sent a text or an email to someone thinking it was useful, humorous, thoughtful, or even just to reach out for it to have been received but not replied to? Chances are good it’s happened at least once if not multiple times to the people reading this article. It is one of the inevitabilities in life that not every text, call, or email will receive the attention it deserves and that’s alright as not everyone has the time or the urge to respond. However, when it’s a friend, family member, or a colleague, who you trust or respect or have some kind of relationship with, then it can be a real problem when your outreach goes ignored.

It is important to be both reliable and responsive to the people you care about and even to those you’re just getting to know if you can do so. Nobody’s perfect but you can really stand out nowadays in a good way when you’re willing to make the effort to respond to someone, to be relied upon and follow through, and to hold yourself accountable. These are qualities in a person that will always make you stand out in a good way because in our attention-deficit addled society, these kinds of traits are becoming less and less common.

Things happen in life such as emergencies, setbacks, and sometimes we just need a break from being plugged in to what’s going on with everyone else. It’s okay to take time off from reaching out if you want to focus on yourself for a while. If people try to reach out still, let them know though that you need some time away from the phone or the computer and if they really need you, indicate that it should only be for an emergency or an urgent matter. I don’t mind when people are unreachable but if there’s a lack of communication about why or for what purpose, it can cause some resentment and the fraying of the relationship or friendship in the long-term.

Nowadays, you can silent your notifications, put your away message up for colleagues to be aware of, or just simply turn your social media channels or phone off for a little while. You can be unresponsive and still be a responsible person in my view. What causes concern in my view is when you refuse to answer me when you read my message and wouldn’t give me any reason or indication of what’s going on. There’s a lot of talk about ‘Ghosting’ people today and I believe we are all guilty of ‘ghosting’ on each other at one time or another, but if it’s a recurring pattern, you really should think twice in how you act towards other people, especially if they value your feedback, opinion, or just want to see how you are.

Whether at work or at home or in ‘third spaces’ with friends or someone you’ve just met, remember to be responsive within reason because it’s about common courtesy not only regarding your time and effort but also of theirs for having reached out to you in the first place. It’s something we overlook but when someone is reaching out to you, they are first thinking about you and spending some time out of the millions of other things they could be thinking about to focus on you as an individual to some degree. It does not mean you need to spend a lot of your time but if you have the availability, it doesn’t hurt to give a simple response or at least let them know where they stand with you, whatever kind of relationship you may have with that person.

Whether it’s a co-worker sending you a message on Microsoft Teams asking for advice on a presentation, an elderly family member asking you to do them a favor regarding a health question, or a friend inviting you to their wedding or their birthday party, you do have a responsibility to be responsive. These situations I posed may not be urgent, but they are important, and to ‘ghost’ them is neither mature nor responsible. You have a duty not only to yourself in how you act but how you carry yourself with others.

At the end of your life, how do you want people to remember you? That’s part of why being reliable and responsive takes on such importance especially as you get older. People will remember in any kind of relationship that you have or had with them how you treated them, if you responded to them, and how much you invested into the relationship, whatever it may have been. Make sure to remember this kind of legacy that you’re building each time you answer that e-mail, respond to that voicemail, or send that text message out. The irony of our technological age is that we are connected by our devices but are as disconnected as ever regarding reaching out, making plans, and being reliable in how we present ourselves.

You can set the tone by being a reliable person who’s available and is reliable whether at work, at school, or at home. Be the person who can be trusted, who gets things done, and is able to follow through when you make a commitment to someone else. Sadly, being both reliable and responsive to other people is becoming rarer and rarer in my view. I believe you can have a lot of professional success and personal happiness if you are able to respond to others in a timely manner and be counted on when they need you.

Hopefully, they will remember you for what you did, how you acted, and how well you treated them. They won’t forget it and ideally, they will follow your lead by picking up those kinds of traits in response. Being someone who is reliable and responsive can have that positive effect on how others behave as well creating a good kind of ‘domino effect’ and improving people’s behavior in a family, in an office, or in a group. You do not have to be available 24 / 7 and nobody is expecting you to be doing so but it’s important to be willing to respond, to follow up, to check in, and to be present with other people whomever they may be and whatever kind of relationship you may have with them.

Finding Your Personal Sanctuary in Modern Life

“With how hectic and chaotic modern life can be, it’s more important now than ever to find your own sanctuary where you can be at peace.”

With how hectic and chaotic modern life can be, it’s more important now than ever to find your own sanctuary where you can be at peace. It’s a place that you only know ideally but if not, it is a quiet place where you can be at ease. We all deal with a lot of stressors each day and it is key to find your own sanctuary where you can be yourself, be by yourself, and enjoy being at peace. It is increasingly hard to do these days when there are so many distractions, commitments, or other things to take care of in our day-to-day lives.

Still though, for one’s own mental health, it is more important now than ever to find your own place, secluded in nature or just somewhere you can call your own, public or private, where you can be free to relax and enjoy some peace. Each person’s sanctuary will look differently from another person’s, but it must be a place where you can rest easy, relax fully, and away from work, chores, or other commitments. You should be focused on this place being good for not only your mind and your body but your soul. It is a place that you can choose to be by yourself but also that you can let other people enjoy as well should you choose to.

When I think of these places of sanctuary, it can vary in terms of setting and background. I have always loved being near the sea or the ocean. It calms me down, lets me focus, or just lets me relax and be at ease. I can leave my earthly troubles for a while and just focus on the birds, the sound of the waves, and the sand beneath my feet. I can also think more clearly when I’m just looking at the water crashing down on the beach or to be watching a seal, dolphin, or birds in the distance. There’s something relaxing about a natural setting like the ocean that may not take my problems away but where I can take a break from them instead and realize also how insignificant and temporary they are. I also love to go in the ocean, to walk on the sand, or to play a sport there a bit like volleyball or some football.

If it’s not the ocean, I have discussed the beauty of a walk in the woods or a hiking trek through the mountains to ease one’s stress and provide some clarity through life’s stressors. If you have a park or a mountain, or even just some nature nearby, a place of sanctuary can be found there as well in nature. Being able to camp or to hike or just to walk in nature, preferably by yourself in a deserted area for a while can do a lot of good for mind, body, and soul.

A sanctuary is one that you decide for yourself, and it can range from a mountain pass, a walk through the flat woods, a serene beach by an ocean or the sea, or a local park at sunset where you’re the only one there. You can let people into your own sanctuary, or you can keep it private as it should be up to you. I do believe that we all need our own sanctuary away from people now and then.

It does not mean I am recommending being a social recluse, but we do need a place where we can rest, relax, and recharge to face our challenges again, whatever they may be. We need that alone time to ourselves in a public or private setting where we can truly think freely, feel different emotions, and let us get in touch with nature.

Now, if you have not decided on what your sanctuary is yet, do not be discouraged. You have time to figure out a place in the world where you like to go and is quiet for you to be free in. There are a lot of places to choose from but the key thing to keep in mind is that it is quiet, solitary, and where you can do some reflection. If you cannot find your sanctuary to call your own, it’s important to find a private room, a private garden, or just a private setting in general, where you can be by yourself for a while to give yourself time to relax and reflect amid your days of hustle and bustle.

Your own sanctuary is what you make of it. You must decide how it looks, where it is, and how often you go there. The main thing to take away from having a sanctuary is that wherever or whatever it is, you can call it your own and it is quiet enough where it provides some solitude and peace. Others can join you there, but they don’t have to if you don’t want them to. Make sure your sanctuary is never disturbed and that is always welcoming regardless of whatever may be going on in your life, both good and bad. A sanctuary is where we find true peace in this world, and I hope you’ll find your own one day.