Tag: 2026

Your Job Is Not Your Identity

“While work makes up most of our day and perhaps week when you consider the weekend is still only two days (or sometimes less) for most adults, let’s not make work our sole identity, especially in this current environment.”

We spend most of our adult lives at work and when we’re not working, we’re likely thinking about work, preparing to work, or going to and from work. While work makes up most of our day and perhaps week when you consider the weekend is still only two days (or sometimes less) for most adults, let’s not make work our sole identity, especially in this current environment. When you have situations where companies are laying off workers to save money on their bottom line, unionization is at historic lows with workers not allowed or able to organize to advocate for themselves, and wages stagnating behind productivity gains since the 1980s, we need to not think of work as our sole identity anymore.

It’s important to work hard and to do your job well but at this point, that alone doesn’t get you ahead in life as much as it used to. At the same time, a full-time job nowadays doesn’t guarantee a pension, steady retirement benefits, or even optimal health care into old age like it may have decades ago. The benefits are not what they used to be and stability in any industry seems to be a thing of the past. I wish I had an answer on how to improve the work culture and perhaps I’ll share my thoughts on that issue but I would rather speak to how it’s vital to invest in your identity outside of the workplace, not to be too attached to a company or an industry, and to keep upskilling so that you can continue to make a living in the future, even when your employer doesn’t invest in you.

When you choose to upskill yourself or advocate for skills training if your employer provides it, you’re giving yourself a key advantage that could keep you employed in the future regardless of how your industry changes. I wish constant upskilling wasn’t necessary as your degrees, experience, and past skills or abilities gained should be enough, but unfortunately that’s not the world we’re living in.

Now, there’s a cost involved and sometimes you may have to foot the bill to upskill yourself, but I think it’s necessary to do so you build skills beyond your current role in case you need to pivot. Instead of identifying yourself with your company or position, identify primarily with what skills or certificates or knowledge you have and how you can pick up work in the future. Tying your identity to your current title, organization, or skillset is a recipe for losing it eventually with nowhere to pivot to without having another skillset or knowledge base to pull from.

For example, you may be an excellent data analyst and have built your experience up in that area over the years. However, if you can also obtain complimentary skills in project management or financial oversight, you can pivot to those kinds of jobs if you are not able to find another job as a data analyst. I highly recommend investing in your professional skillset so that you are not tied up in one field for the rest of your career, leaving yourself vulnerable to industry collapse, lack of positions available, or technological changes, which all could occur over time.

It takes more effort beyond traditional education you may have received but it may be worth the money to learn new skills in case you have to stay employable. I never wish anyone to lose their livelihood or job, but you must be taking precautions nowadays as the job market can be quite brutal to those people who don’t have complimentary skills to offer.

When the work is over, you should make the most of it and try to put it out of your head as much as possible. Yes, you can find comradery at work and have a good experience but sometimes, you are going to be dealing with difficult people who you would rather not have to interact with. Be professional, respectful, and responsible but don’t look for friends or fulfillment in a workplace where you may not be able to find it. You must be able to find fulfillment elsewhere these days whether it’s at a community center, a shared hobby alone or with others, getting exercise and staying healthy, or just spending time with friends and family.

I know it’s challenging if you’re working 40 hours or more on top of commuting to an in-person job back and forth and I hope that changes in the future. Having a flexible work environment can make life much more enjoyable. With the limited free time that you have, try to make the most of it, spend it doing stuff you enjoy around people you like being with. Modern work culture is not working out well in a variety of ways but before the system can change, we must realize that our identity should not be tied to it so much.

Instead of continuing to identify yourself with your title and your organization when meeting someone, talk about who you are as a person, what you like to do, how you spend your free time, and try not to focus so much on work when you clock out. Reclaim your time outside of work as much as possible and if you end up needing to find a new job, don’t let yourself mourn what is no longer part of your life. Be able to find contentment in what other titles you have such as a brother, son, traveler, guitarist, or whatever title you can make part of your whole identity. Just because we must work to make a living in this world doesn’t mean that it defines who we are.

Mi Septimo Conjunto de Poemas en Español (My Seventh Set of Spanish Poems)

“Cuatro poemas originales en español sobre el amor, la felicidad, los deseos cotidianos y el encanto de Buenos Aires.”

Felicidad

En los momentos mas especiales,
Nada puede disminuir mi vida.
La exaltación de la existencia,
Mi alma sera tan inmensa.
En tu presencia, me siento feliz.
Por siempre.

Tacos, Tacos, Tacos

Un impulso incontrolable.
Asada, chorizo, pastor,
y todos los demás.
Dame tacos, dame felicidad.
Por la mañana,
por la tarde,
por la noche.
A cualquier hora del día,
estaré listo a comerlos.
Porque no hay nada
más rico en este mundo
que unos buenos tacos.

Para Conquistarme

Sí, me gusta todo de ti,
pero dime: ¿tienes ganas de conquistarme?
Soy mucho más
de lo que mis ojos muestran.
Puedes conocer mi cuerpo,
pero ¿conocerás también mi mente?
Mi cuerpo puede acercarse a ti,
pero mi alma no es tuya.
Para conquistarla,
tendrás que conocerme
mucho más.

Una Vida Argentina

Yo sé que mi acento es diferente,
yo sé también que mi voseo está mezclado.
Pero, al mismo tiempo,
me encanta estar frente al Obelisco,
celebrando con los fanáticos de Boca Juniors,
mirando El Ateneo, una de las librerías más bonitas del mundo.
No soy argentino, pero extraño la vida porteña.
Mándame una invitación para regresar,
y vamos a comer un asado y tomar vino juntos
porque Buenos Aires todavía me llama.

Find Someone Who is a Real Shot of Life

“After so many lackluster encounters, meeting that rare man or woman who lights you up, is interesting and engaged, can ask questions and hold a conversation, you know you’ve met someone who is a real shot of life.”

Do you remember when you met someone who left such an impression on you that you couldn’t wait to see them again? They give you that shot of life because of how vivacious, entertaining, and lively they are, which have become exceedingly rare qualities these days. We often go through our day-to-day routines around people who are nice but either not very interesting or not very engaging. It could be a dull coworker, a disinterested boss, or a flummoxed stranger who can’t hold a conversation even when it’s about the weather.

After so many lackluster encounters, meeting that rare man or woman who lights you up, is interesting and engaged, can ask questions and hold a conversation, you know you’ve met someone who is a real shot of life. They don’t need to necessarily fulfill the role of a romantic partner or a friend or a colleague but just being around them makes you feel better and they see you as an actual person rather than a means to an end. There’s real light behind their eyes, there is depth to them that you want to uncover, and they can put forth effort into making themselves available to you.

There’s a balance there as you don’t want someone who is lively, but is also not overbearing, not respectful of your boundaries or just takes too many risks that could lead to trouble. There are several qualities to look for in people you should want to be around: curiosity, presence, playfulness, storytelling, humorous, reciprocity, initiative, depth, and vitality. They don’t necessarily need to be extroverted either but it’s more about how they treat you, if they remember you, they make the effort to see you again, and they know that interactions and conversations are not meant to be a monologue.

Being charismatic and making yourself known to others is part of it but it’s also being engaged and taking a normal interaction and making it better. For some examples, it could be the bartender who remembers your birthday if you have been a regular there for years, the woman or man at a dinner party who asks an engaging question about your background, the coworker who cracks a funny joke to you privately about the latest rule at the office, or even the traveler on the road who takes the time to hear your own story after they’ve told you theirs and will react to it with real interest.

A lot of modern life is repetitive and many of our interactions with other people, especially strangers are quite mundane. Most interactions are shallow or don’t happen at all considering how much technology is absorbing our limited attention spans. When somebody comes along and breaks up your routine and lights up your day, you’ll remember them for weeks or months or even years later just because how special it was compared to most other interactions. It’s not even that it was an extraordinary meeting, but it was more about interested that person was, how they made you feel seen, and the depth and realness of the conversation.

When someone takes you out of that loop of emails -> meetings -> screentime -> commuting to focus on them alone, that is powerful and exceedingly rare to have. The ideal is that the ‘real shot of life’ this person gives you is energy without chaos, confidence without arrogance, curiosity without obsession, spontaneity without recklessness, and warmth without neediness. Having a real shot of life someone isn’t about the adrenaline they can give you, it’s about when they make you feel alive and present in the moment.

Perhaps the best thing we can do is try to become a ‘shot of life’ for someone else and they can do the same for you in return by setting the example for them. That doesn’t mean becoming the loudest person in the room, constantly entertaining everyone, or turning yourself into some larger-than-life personality. It means staying curious about the world. It’s about asking questions and listen to the answers. Develop new hobbies and interests in your life. Try new things and learn new things as well. Tell stories and jokes without fear of how they’ll be perceived. Make plans and get outside more often and away from your tech devices.

Be willing to laugh at yourself and your mistakes. Put the phone away and give someone your full attention to be truly present with them. Most importantly, try and remember more about other people you care about and take note of who they are. In a world where so many interactions have become transactional, distracted, or purely obligatory, genuine engagement has become a gift. You never know when someone else might desperately need the little bit of energy, humor, curiosity, or warmth that you have to offer.

Maybe that is ultimately why someone who is a ‘real shot of life’ leaves such a lasting impression on us. They remind us that life doesn’t have to feel like a series of obligations, routines, meetings, errands, and small talk. Occasionally, someone comes along and shakes us out of that rhythm, whether in our hometown or on the road. We talk for hours with them when we expected to talk for twenty minutes. We laugh and joke harder than we have in weeks. We find ourselves looking forward to seeing them again before we’ve even said goodbye.

They don’t necessarily become our best friend, romantic partner, or lifelong companion. Sometimes, they simply pass through our lives for a brief period and leave something memorable behind. For however long they’re there in your life, they make the world feel a little more interesting, a little more connected, and a little more alive. Perhaps that’s the real mark of someone who is a ‘shot of life’: after spending time with them, you walk away feeling more alive yourself.

Mind Your Manners and Niceties in Public

“Sadly, this is not an isolated occurrence in the post-COVID world as manners have declined, niceties are becoming rarer, and kind gestures to strangers are less common than before.”

When someone is walking towards you on the sidewalk and you know they’re going to bump into you if you or them don’t change course, what do you do then? In my case, I realize they are in my path as I try to be aware of my surroundings, especially in my city as I’m walking and trying not to be on my phone and I’ll move aside for that person accordingly. While I don’t mind making the gesture myself to avoid a collision with that person unnecessarily, the fact that they don’t make any attempt to move themselves out of our colliding path or at least acknowledge my presence instead of being on their phone or talking to a friend reflects a clear lack of manners and niceties we should expect from one another when in public.

Sadly, this is not an isolated occurrence in the post-COVID world as manners have declined, niceties are becoming rarer, and kind gestures to strangers are less common than before. When you live in a city or an urban area especially, these manners and niceties help make the day much easier even when you’re dealing with a lot more people around you. In rural or suburban areas, the pace is slower and there are fewer people, so these manners are more enforced and easier to take note of than in cities. However, our societal expectations around manners and niceties need a real refresher in terms of what to do and what not to do in public spaces.

I don’t expect the average person to have much awareness of what’s customary and what’s not customary manners wise because it really hasn’t been drilled into them by their family, friends, or even from school or work in years. Therefore, we really must do the basic work again in our own day-to-day lives of setting the example, educating others when feasible, and working towards establishing public service announcements or at least some consistent leadership from those of us who have a bigger microphone or outreach capacity to others.

What are the signs of a lack of manners and niceties these days you may ask? The list is evolving but these are the ones that I was taught never to do and there are some newer ones with technology that have been added to my list as well. When you think of common niceties that make things better for everyone, think about the following examples: not littering, don’t cut the line, don’t have loud conversations in public if you can’t maintain an indoor voice, returning your shopping cart when you’re done using it, saying thank you when someone holds the door or being that person who holds the door for the next person behind you. When it comes to driving a vehicle, never park in the handicapped spot unless you or someone with you is handicapped, not using the HOV lane on the highway if you’re driving by yourself, and not tailgating someone’s vehicle when you can maintain distance from them safely.

In addition, certain behaviors that are encouraged or tolerated now which should go back to being frowned upon again include wearing proper attire out in public like the gym, the airport, or the conference center. Pajamas, athletic wear, and beach wear have their places too but not where they shouldn’t be tolerated for dress. For example, you wouldn’t wear athletic wear to a church like you shouldn’t wear your flip flops to a boardroom meeting, right? Same with pajamas or athletic wear at an airport in my view. You’re flying to Dallas, not going to Planet Fitness for an intense gym session for those of you who may disagree here about the appropriateness of athletic wear.

Beyond that, it’s about being kind and courteous to others by acknowledging their presence, knowing where they are, and both of you moving aside so as not to knock into each other unwittingly because you were on your phone or you just didn’t care to move, which shouldn’t be controversial to prevent from happening. Wearing earphones or headphones at meetings, on the train, or in public is the bare minimum for mature behavior and not a big ask to lower or turn off unwanted noise or music for others around you. It pains me to say this too, but some people today need a refresher course on basic manners and niceties, and it goes even more so for the increased incidences of shoplifting, graffiti, lying while serving in a public role, cheating, and just not being truthful with either your words or your actions.

I understand that no one’s perfect and I have not been the best at times due to looking at my phone while walking, maybe getting in the way of others unnecessarily, or just not being as courteous as I could in public. I can always get better at niceties and manners and so can you. It starts with being aware of yourself, acknowledging others’ presence around you, and learning about what is common courtesy and what is not.

I don’t think it should be controversial to dress properly, move aside for each other on the sidewalk, or be respectful on the road while driving. Without these manners and niceties being consistently observed, it’s an actual sign of societal decline and we will all be worse off for it in the long run. Once these manners and niceties go away, proper behavior becomes rarer and then it’s harder to go to work, to attend school, or to build any trust with other people. Manners and niceties are the foundation of a functioning society, and we could all use refreshers on what that means nowadays.

Your Immediate World Gets Quieter As You Get Older

“Loss of loved ones and their physical presence leave a gaping hole in our lives never to be replaced. Yes, you can make new friends, establish new loving relationships, but long past are the days from your youth or even adulthood where you can count on a grandparent or even a parent to be there by your side, providing you their unconditional love, support, or encouragement.”

While we all wish for some lasting peace and quiet from time to time to find serenity in a world that becomes more intrusive and invasive. At the same time, we yearn to hear thoughts and voices again of those long lost from our lives. While the wider world can get loud, obtrusive, or downright annoying with its cacophony of sounds and noises, we yearn unsuccessfully for the unique sounds and voices from those who are long gone from this world, never to be heard from again.

Loss of loved ones and their physical presence leave a gaping hole in our lives never to be replaced. Yes, you can make new friends, establish new loving relationships, but long past are the days from your youth or even adulthood where you can count on a grandparent or even a parent to be there by your side, providing you their unconditional love, support, or encouragement.

We may be surrounded by people every day, mostly strangers, maybe a few friends, but our inner world shrinks down further when we lose the people who knew us best. Very few people in this world are there with you from birth or childhood and they can never be replaced once they pass away. When someone you’ve known your whole life goes away, it leaves a deep empty feeling and a kind of quiet that sustains just how a big loss it was from your immediate world. Memories and mementos help to ease the pain, but they are only a poor substitute or a shadow at best when it comes to establishing just how much they meant to your life.

How does one deal with the huge void that your loved one left when they passed? Well, I don’t have any easy answer here, but it’s important to do your best to think about how they would see you now that they are gone, what they would think about your life now even though they’re no longer there with you, and how would you honor their memory as best as you can with what you shared with them during your time together. Telling their story to others, putting yourself out there to establish new friendships or relationships, and preventing yourself from isolating yourself further from the wider world are all good ways to move forward even if the quiet remains when you can no longer talk to them or hear their voice.

Perhaps that is one of the stranger realities of getting older: the world around us may become larger, while our immediate world becomes smaller. We meet new people, travel to new places, build careers, fall in love, make friends, and create lives that our younger selves could never have imagined. Yet there are certain people from our earlier days who belong to a part of our story that no one else can ever occupy. We may have known them 20, 30, 40 years or so from our life’s beginning but they don’t get to see how the second half of our lives play out without them there to guide or help us. When they are gone, we don’t simply lose a person who was special to us. We lose one of the voices and presences that helped make our world feel like home.                     

Maybe the goal, then, isn’t to eliminate the quiet that remains. Maybe it is to learn how to live alongside it. To carry the stories, habits, humor, lessons, and memories of those we’ve lost into the lives we are still living. The quiet is painful because it reminds us that something precious is missing, but it is also evidence that something precious was once there. Perhaps the best way to honor the beloved people whose voices we can no longer hear is to keep living loudly enough that, in some small way, their influence can still be heard and felt through us.

‘The Odyssey’ – Film Review and Analysis

“This film is one of those rare ones where three hours flies by, there are no major weaknesses besides some small sound mixing difficulties, and the last third act of it may be the best of the 2020s decade so far.”

It is very rare where I must see a movie in theaters twice. That was exactly the case though for this summer’s blockbuster hit and clear Academy Awards contender, ‘The Odyssey’ (2026), directed by Christopher Nolan, which is a stunning film revival of the 3000-year epic. While it’s been a long time since I read Homer’s epic in high school, ‘The Odyssey’, the basic premise of Nolan’s film adaptation has stayed largely the same with some changes and subtractions needed to preserve a three-hour screen time.

This film deserves to be seen in theaters, at least once, preferably in the order of 1.) IMAX 70mm, 2.) IMAX regular, 3.) 70mm, depending on what is available in your local movie theater. This film is one of those rare ones where three hours flies by, there are no major weaknesses besides some small sound mixing difficulties, and the last third act of it may be the best of the 2020s decade so far.

Why am I so ebullient about ‘The Odyssey’? There are a lot of positives about this film but the biggest one for me was just how beautifully shot this film is, how the locations seem otherworldly and seem to come straight out of the pages of Homer’s epic poem, and how your mouth drops at certain points of the film wondering just how Nolan pulled filming these scenes off? I know there are no real spoilers for a 3000-year-old epic, but consider the Cyclops scene, the Hades scene, and the Troy scenes, for which all of them will go down in cinematic history as some of the best of all-time.

It’s not just the big battles that are done well in terms of clear direction and cinematography; there are the small moments in the film where you see Odysseus looking out at a pack of dolphins swimming in the sea by his ship, panoramic and sweeping views shot of Ithaca (Odysseus’s kingdom), and the various islands and islets that make up the ill-fated journey home but never really become that repetitive in terms of their setting.

More than how visually stunning ‘The Odyssey’ is as a film but also how complete of a movie it is when you focus on the beautiful music score of Ludwig Gorannson, one of the best composers in film today, if not the best, currently working in film music. It is a haunting score tied deeply into each unique scene, and for which never feels out of place or is too overbearing. Especially seeing it in IMAX, the score and sounds are immersive, so every Cyclops yell, clash of swords, and soldiers’ war cry feel amplified like you’re also there in Ancient Greece. Now, I understand there are complaints about the casting, costume design, authenticity of the period, but that never affected my judgment of the movie rarely, if at all. You could argue about the authenticity of this adaptation but the creativity, the direction, the acting, the scenery, and the overall messages and themes of the film are all phenomenal and speak to why this is the best film of 2026 so far.

Matt Damon as ‘Odysseus’ was honestly much better than I had expected going into my viewing, and he is able to carry the sheer physicality and mental toll of playing this character. He looks convincing as a wily, cunning, aging, and most assuredly stubborn King of Ithaca whose hubris leads his men astray for more than ten years after the victory at Troy. Damon really puts his heart and soul into this role, and you can tell how dedicated he was to show how Odysseus’s fateful decisions at Troy affected how he viewed his decades-long journey home after that fateful night of what became a ‘hunt’ and not a ‘fight’ after pulling off the Trojan horse gambit at the film’s beginning. His anguish, regret, pain, sorrow, and other emotions boil to the surface of his ‘Odysseus’ character without feeling forced or out of place throughout the film, especially in its conclusion when he delivers an impactful monologue upon seeing his beloved ‘Penelope’ again.        

Anne Hathaway deserves equal praise for her portrayal of ‘Penelope’, Odysseus’s wife, who provides the emotional counterweight to Damon’s Odysseus. While Odysseus spends the film fighting, wandering, scheming, and trying to find his way home to Ithaca after the Trojan War, Penelope is forced to endure the much quieter but arguably just as difficult burden of waiting, especially since she can’t usurp the throne in the meantime as a woman. Hathaway does a wonderful job portraying a woman who is resilient without becoming emotionally hardened, and hopeful without being naïve about where Odysseus is.

The importance of Ithaca throughout the film is largely embodied through Penelope’s dilemma of moving on with her life. It is not simply the physical destination that Odysseus is desperately trying to reach; it is his family, his identity, and the life that existed before the Trojan War transformed him. In that sense, Hathaway makes Penelope an essential part of the film’s larger meditation on what it means to come home.   

Samantha Morton as the sorceress ‘Circe’ deserves considerable credit for making the human consequences of the Trojan War impossible to ignore. Troy is presented as a spectacular military achievement, but Nolan is far more interested in showing that victory does not necessarily mean anyone has truly won. The Greeks may have conquered Troy, but the war has left behind an enormous amount of suffering, grief, trauma, and resentment for which Circe is keenly aware of when she encounters some of Odysseus’s men in the aftermath.

Morton’s heart wrenching performance as ‘Circe’ helps demonstrate that the people who pay the greatest price for the ambitions of kings and warriors are often the people who had the least say in starting the conflict in the first place. The Trojan War may be the film’s great military triumph, but it is also the beginning of Odysseus’s tragedy. The victory at Troy is not the end, but rather the beginning of consequences that ripple outward through the epic, affecting every character, human and otherworldly alike, in a world defined by a “time of apparent magic” and humanity’s defiance of the gods.

Robert Pattinson deserves considerable praise for his portrayal of ‘Antinous’, one of the film’s most despicable characters. Pattinson leans into Antinous’s arrogance, cowardice, and entitlement without turning him into a stereotypical cartoon villain. He represents something fundamentally different from the external dangers Odysseus faces throughout his journey: the corruption that can develop inside a supposedly civilized society when the institution erodes without true leadership. Antinous has power, status, and access to Ithaca’s royal household, yet he uses those advantages to intimidate and exploit rather than protect, as he had promised Odysseus when he left for the Trojan War that he would look after Telemachus, Odysseus’s son.                

His behavior toward Penelope, Telemachus, and the other suitors makes him particularly effective as a symbol of what happens when Zeus’s hospitality is abused. Guests are supposed to respect the household that welcomes them, but Antinous and the suitors increasingly act as though Odysseus’s and Penelope’s home belongs to them. Pattinson makes that arrogance believable, and his performance becomes vital to the film’s eventual final reckoning in Ithaca. The biggest danger facing Odysseus is ultimately not just the monsters and gods he encounters abroad; it is also the possibility that the civilization he has fought so hard to return to has been hollowed out from within, largely thanks to Antinous and his ilk.

John Leguizamo’s performance as Eumaeus provides almost the perfect counterpoint and is the film’s #1-character standout in my view. Where Antinous represents entitlement, Eumaeus represents loyalty, humility, and genuine hospitality. He is not a king, warrior, or powerful political figure in Ithaca, yet his humanity makes him one of the most important supporting characters in the epic.

Eumaeus demonstrates that civilization is not ultimately sustained by the people with the most power but by ordinary people who continue to treat others with dignity even when they have little to gain from doing so. His relationship with Odysseus also gives the homecoming storyline some of its emotional warmth. After everything Odysseus has endured, Eumaeus represents a version of Ithaca that is still worth returning to decades later: a place where loyalty and decency have survived despite the chaos surrounding it. Leguizamo brings a grounded humanity to the role that helps keep the film from becoming consumed entirely by its larger-than-life spectacle.

The major theme of moral reckoning becomes especially important when considering the film’s depiction of Troy and the broader world surrounding Odysseus. One of the more intriguing aspects of The Odyssey is its multiple references to the so-called ‘Sea Peoples’ and a Mediterranean world that increasingly feels as though it is coming apart at the seams. Historically, the Bronze Age collapse was an enormously complicated event with multiple possible causes, and it would be overly simplistic to suggest that the ‘Sea Peoples’ alone brought down the civilizations of the eastern Mediterranean.

However, as a cinematic device used by Nolan, the reference made to them is enormously effective when you watch the film. Nolan presents a world in which established civilizations are becoming increasingly unstable, populations are moving, kingdoms are fighting for survival, and the institutions that once connected different peoples for trade and cooperation are beginning to disappear because of the loss of ‘xenia’ or hospitality.

The seamless weaving of a powerful central theme is where The Odyssey becomes much more than an adventure epic. One of the most important concepts in Homer’s original epic is xenia, the ancient Greek tradition of hospitality toward strangers and guests. Throughout Odysseus’s journey, hospitality is treated almost as a moral law. How a person treats a stranger reveal something fundamental about that person’s character and the society in which they live. Some people welcome Odysseus and his men in the film. Others exploit them, imprison them, attack them, or treat them as something less than human. The consequences of Odysseus’s choices are often enormous, and it all started with his idea of the Trojan horse, leading to the invasion, capture, and the fall of Troy that led to the loss of Zeus’s hospitality being universally practiced.

Nolan’s film adaptation of the epic makes this ancient idea surprisingly relevant to our world today. Civilizations are not held together solely by armies, walls, ships, or kings. They depend upon trust, reciprocity, restraint, and the belief that people outside our immediate community still possess humanity and dignity. Once those principles disappear, every stranger becomes a potential enemy, every neighbor becomes a potential threat, and every disagreement becomes a reason for violence. The result is a world increasingly incapable of cooperating with itself.

That makes the Bronze Age setting of The Odyssey epic feel almost eerily contemporary without the movie ever needing to become explicitly political. The civilizations surrounding Odysseus are not destroyed simply because they lack powerful warriors. They are part of a world in which conflict, displacement, revenge, greed, and mistrust have become increasingly difficult to contain or avoid. The film suggests that civilization is more fragile than we like to believe. It can take generations to build a functioning society and remarkably little time to begin tearing it all apart.

Perhaps that is why the film’s emphasis on homecoming ultimately carries so much weight for everyone who has watched it in theaters. Odysseus is not simply trying to survive long enough to reach Ithaca and his family. He is trying to return to a world that existed before the war and before his own mistakes changed that world forever. The journey home forces him to confront the difference between being a great warrior and being a good king, between being clever and being wise, and between winning a war and understanding what that fateful victory cost you.

Ultimately, that is what makes The Odyssey such a compelling film in 2026. Beneath all the spectacular battles, enormous sets, incredible locations, visual effects, and booming IMAX sound is a remarkably old story about very familiar problems for humanity: pride, love, grief, revenge, loyalty, temptation, family, and the desire to return home after being changed by the world. Christopher Nolan has taken a story that is roughly three thousand years old and somehow made it feel alive and vibrant again, which is no small achievement at all.   

That may be the most lasting achievement of Nolan’s The Odyssey as an adaptation. It takes an ancient story about one man trying desperately to get home and turns it into something much larger: a story about what happens when humanity loses its way, and what it takes to find its way home again. For me, that makes The Odyssey the best film of 2026 so far, and one of the rare Hollywood blockbusters that feels worthy of the word epic. I went to see it the first time in IMAX. Then I went back and saw it again in 70mm recently because it was that good. I suspect that says just about everything about how special this film is and why you should see it yourself.

Memories Are The Only Form of Immortality For Our Loved Ones

“Instead, we should be more focused on the only form of immortality that should matter, which is living on in the memories and thoughts of our loved ones for as long as possible.”

When we think about immortality, we should not think about it in the literal sense that anybody on Earth is ever going to live forever no matter how many scientific advances are made in the future. While people continue to research and work on expanding their given lifespan to eventually never find themselves at death’s door, life is meant to be finite, and that’s the case no matter how long we are given to live that one life. Instead, we should be more focused on the only form of immortality that should matter, which is living on in the memories and thoughts of our loved ones for as long as possible.

No matter who you are in the world, everyone has lost a loved one in their life at some point, whether it was a family member, a friend, or an acquaintance and the grieving process is different for everybody. What anyone who has had that special connection with someone else wouldn’t give to have had another talk, another meal, another time with that loved one is truly priceless but for which we can never get back when they’re gone. Because we don’t ever get that time back with our loved one regardless of who they are or what they did during their life, we should focus instead on remembering the good times and memories that were shared together.

It’s key to really jot those memories down, reflect on them, keep items or trinkets that remind you of your lost loved ones, and think also about the places where they lived or visited. No one is ever truly gone if you carry them with you throughout your life and teach your offspring or other family members about who that beloved person was and what they personally meant to you. While immortality in the abstract sense of a person living forever is not possible and will likely never come to pass, focus instead of making your loved one(s) immortal by thinking about them, preserving your photos and videos of them, telling people about them when appropriate, and keeping them in your heart and in your mind.

Hopefully, the memories you had together were mainly positive and the times you shared were both happy and joyful. Also, you shouldn’t try to make someone immortal in your thoughts and memories who wronged you or made you feel bad even if it was a family member or a friend. Relationships, even amongst family and friends, can be extremely complicated so your willingness to have someone become ‘immortal’ in the metaphorical sense, who was in your life but is now gone should be completely voluntary.

Perhaps that is the closest thing we must experiencing true immortality. We cannot stop death, we are also not supposed to stop death when we consider the religious and societal implications of that futile effort, and we cannot know whether any of us will ever exist again in another form. However, we should remember if we loved or cared for that person who is now gone from our lives physically.

We can still tell stories and tales about them. We can look at saved photographs years later and still smile at the person staring back at us, regardless of how young or old they were when the photos were taken. We can visit the places they once loved and think about the times that were shared with them there. If possible, we can also tell the next generation who they were, what they accomplished, what made them laugh, and why they mattered so much to you.

Eventually, even our own lives will become memories for someone else and hopefully several people in your family and friend group will remember you long after you’re gone because of how important an impact you made in their lives when you were there. That is both beautiful and sobering to think about when we think about the topic of death. We are temporary stewards on this Earth, but the effect that we can have on other people can outlive us for years or even decades later. In that sense, perhaps the best form of immortality is not living forever ourselves but leaving enough of ourselves behind so that others will remember us long after we are gone.

If They Don’t Provide You with Peace, Don’t Indulge Them Further

“You must protect your time as much as possible, including who you decide to give it to or with whom you spend it. Time is a finite resource and it’s important to be a bit selfish with regards to who you give that time to.”

You must protect your time as much as possible, including who you decide to give it to or with whom you spend it. Time is a finite resource and it’s important to be a bit selfish with regards to who you give that time to. You have to be decisive in this part of life, especially as you get older. While it’s important to spend time with family, friends, or acquaintances outside of work or business, you should also be intentional about who receives your time and energy.

Life is hard enough as it is on its own without other people adding to your stress. Some friction is inevitable in any friendship or relationship and it’s important to work through it as responsible adults. However, the difference in when knowing not to indulge them further or cut ties with them is if every interaction or meetup leaves you feeling emotionally taxed or if they didn’t bring any positive impact to you all getting together. This is especially important when you’re thinking about being friends or a romantic partner with someone long-term. You want to leave them feeling better than you did when you first saw them or began seeing each other. If every interaction with them consistently leaves you emotionally drained, frustrated, or questioning why you continue giving this person your time, that’s worth paying attention to and trusting your instincts about whether to keep seeing them or not.

You don’t want to use that person as an emotional punching bag either to vent or to complain but you should be able to express yourself freely without judgment or needing to mask your emotions. We each do that enough during the day with strangers, with work colleagues, or in general. You should be able to be vulnerable and true to heart with someone who can provide you peace by listening to you, giving you real feedback and advice, or just being there when you’re going through both good times and bad times.

Peace, however, doesn’t necessarily mean convenience. Someone can provide you with peace because they are agreeable and never challenge you, but that doesn’t necessarily make them a good friend or romantic partner. A healthy relationship isn’t one where you always agree or never frustrate one another. In fact, someone can occasionally frustrate you, challenge your thinking, or even disagree with you and still be an incredibly valuable person in your life. The difference is how you handle those disagreements and how you feel about the relationship’s progression overall.

It may be worth asking yourself three simple questions when thinking about keeping the relationship going or letting it end on a good note: Can I be myself around this person? Can we disagree without disrespecting one another? And after spending time with them consistently, do I generally feel better or worse? Your answers to those questions can tell you a great deal about whether a friendship or a relationship provides genuine peace or simply avoiding conflict.

If you find that you’re not really getting along well with them consistently, maybe either or both of you have changed since you first got together, it may be useful to evaluate whether it’s worth moving forward with them in the future. Friendships and relationships often have a beginning and an end due to several factors and it’s important to end things honestly and on a good note, if possible. Just because they don’t provide you with peace or comfort anymore doesn’t mean there have to be bitter feelings at the end of it for both parties.

The main thing to keep in mind is that each time you get together, you can be open and honest with them while not being combative, dismissive, or confrontational for no discernible reason. Peace and harmony in any relationship or friendship is absolutely the minimum you should strive for and when it’s constantly not like that regardless of the frequency of getting together, you may need to either limit the interactions with that person or cut them off entirely.

There’s an oft-used statement that’s used for adults in that you must be willing to ‘protect your peace’ because the mental strain and emotional toll a bad friendship or a toxic relationship can have on you is never worth it. Sometimes, you have to distance yourself from someone not to punish them, but because continuing the relationship is no longer healthy for you. Perhaps you can forgive them and go back to the way things were, but you must also be willing to move on and not indulge them further with your valuable time or presence. Protecting your peace isn’t about expecting every relationship to be easy; it’s about recognizing when maintaining a relationship has become more harmful than healthy.

As we get older, part of growing up is realizing that not every relationship or friendship is meant to last forever. Some people are meant to accompany us for a season, teach us something, share an experience with us, and eventually move on. There doesn’t have to be hatred or resentment involved on either side. Sometimes the healthiest thing you can do for yourself and ultimately for them is simply stop indulging in a relationship that no longer brings out the best in either of you.

The Hidden Harm of Toxic Positivity

“Toxic positivity often comes from a good place whether it’s a desire to encourage, comfort, or inspire. Yet, when optimism becomes an expectation rather than a choice, it can silence genuine emotions and leave people feeling isolated during life’s most difficult moments, personally or professionally.”

It’s good to stay positive in both professional and personal contexts, especially as being negative or pessimistic can be very isolating in American culture. I think of myself as a forward-looking person who likes to think things will eventually work out in the end and if not, at least you did your best to swing the outcome favorably. Being positive and ‘toxic positivity’ is very different though as there’s a clear difference between being positive all the time (toxic positivity) and being positive yet realistic. When you’re positive all the time and want others to do the same, you really gloss over the negatives of any situation and when real fixes need to be applied rather than brushed over.

When you’re hoping for a positive outcome, you need to understand clearly what the issue is, how to resolve it, and how to keep a realistic perspective on why that problem exists. Toxic positivity means never needing to acknowledge the problem at hand and can be easily compared to the ‘elephant in the room.’ Not only can this lead to individual issues but it can also affect larger organizations and institutions as a result.

Institutionally, it’s good to be optimistic and want everyone to be positive on how things are going, but if you’re constantly only thinking about what’s good and ignoring what’s bad or what could be improved and also not listening to the individuals pointing out the issues that could be fixed, the institution, whatever sector you’re in, will decline as a result. An after-effect of not acknowledging problems or even being allowed to voice them is that the ill effects of this attitude can spread where people end up being gaslit, silenced, or even isolated entirely causing the trust in the institution’s capacity to solve actual problems to suffer as a result.

Whether at an individual or larger level, you should be able to acknowledge the good and bad in every situation and be comfortable sharing it personally or professionally. It’s important to make sure you’re not too heavy in the positivity or the negativity but both sides must be shared for things to progress. If you’re constantly positive and not thinking about what could be improved or taken care of, nothing will change and small issues could become big ones if not addressed. The same goes for if you’re constantly negative and nitpicking every little thing, you won’t be able to foster cooperation or problem solving and end up hurting your reputation or your ability to deal with challenges or that of your organization in the future.

Being honest with yourself about what needs to change, am I responsible for what needs to be done, and how to think about the good and bad of any situation is key to being a full-fledged adult and having real introspection. The same can be said for any organization or institution looking to improve itself. If you are silencing dissent, aren’t transparent at all, and never solicit feedback from within the professional body you are apart of, things will end up much more negative as a result and problems will never get solved and likely lead to larger issues.

I’ve always thought that there is never going to be a perfect situation, result, or outcome individually or institutionally and that it’s important to acknowledge the positives while being clear about the negatives too. Sometimes, nothing can be done about a negative situation but it’s important to at least acknowledge that it exists instead of pretending that it doesn’t exist at all.

Personally, think of your own accountability in how you handle everyday situations when maybe you don’t do as well as on a test even though you passed it, you still could have done better and studied more. Yes, you may have gone to the gym once or twice a week and that’s a nice habit but perhaps you can do more still to improve your physical fitness. Professionally, is there a ‘lessons learned’ that you glean from a project or presentation on what went well and what could be improved for next time? Are you able to give feedback about your organization without worrying about what they’ll think of you, or will there be isolation because of expressing your views?

Toxic positivity often comes from a good place whether it’s a desire to encourage, comfort, or inspire. Yet, when optimism becomes an expectation rather than a choice, it can silence genuine emotions and leave people feeling isolated during life’s most difficult moments, personally or professionally. True positivity is not pretending that everything is fine all the time; it is having the courage to face reality while believing that better days are still possible.

By creating space for honesty, empathy, and authentic conversations, we build stronger relationships and healthier communities where people feel seen, heard, and supported. Sometimes the most powerful response isn’t offering a silver lining at all. It’s simply saying, “I’m here with you,” or “I understand where you’re coming from,” and giving someone the freedom to express both the highs and lows that make us human. After all, genuine compassion isn’t about replacing difficult emotions with positive ones, it’s about making sure no one has to face them alone.

Life’s Unlikely Cinematic Moments

“Every so often, without warning, life gives us something entirely different. It hands us a scene that could have come straight from a movie.”

Life certainly has its fair share of dreary or uninspiring moments like driving to work in heavy traffic, waiting in the doctor’s office for an appointment, or wandering down grocery store aisles searching for one specific item among hundreds of others. It’s easy to think that life is mostly made up of obligations, routines, and responsibilities. Every so often, without warning, life gives us something entirely different. It hands us a scene that could have come straight from a movie.

We spend so much of our lives chasing milestones: job promotions, weddings, vacations, birthdays, graduations, or other long-awaited accomplishments that we often overlook the quiet moments in between that are just as special. Ironically, those quieter scenes are often the ones that replay in our memory years later. They aren’t memorable because something extraordinary happened. They’re memorable because, for a moment, everything around us seemed perfectly composed, almost as if someone had carefully framed the world through a movie camera lens.

In these cinematic moments, nothing particularly significant happens that affects you deeply. There are no life-changing conversations or dramatic plot twists to go with this kind of cinematic moment. Instead, it simply feels as though everything is exactly as it should be. All your senses become heightened when this happens and you notice sounds that normally blend into the background, appreciate the way the light falls across a street or over a mountain, and become fully present rather than rushing toward whatever comes next.

One evening in Vancouver, Canada earlier this summer, I wandered into Richmond’s Chinese food district with no agenda beyond enjoying a late-evening snack at the Yaohan Centre and exploring the different vendor offerings. As the sun slowly sank toward the Pacific, the distant mountains caught the day’s final light, glowing softly against the evening sky. I stepped outside with a cigar I had purchased earlier in the trip, lit it, and settled in to enjoy it while watching the sunset. Above me, the SkyTrain thundered overhead every few minutes as aircraft lined up for takeoff and landing at Vancouver International Airport.

Between bites of dumplings, conversations in Mandarin and Cantonese drifted through the air as cars quietly came and went from the Centre’s parking lot. The city never stopped moving, but for ten minutes, I did. This moment felt less like traveling and more like standing inside a perfectly framed movie scene, where I was somehow both the audience and one of the characters. There was no grand event taking place or resolution occurring for me or anyone else at the time. Nothing about those minutes would have made the local news or anyone else’s travel itinerary. Yet it remains one of the moments I remember most vividly from my time spent in Vancouver.

Looking back, I’ve realized that these cinematic moments are different from life’s highlights. Highlights are the events we intentionally chase throughout our lives. We save money for them, put them on our calendars, and count down the days until they arrive. They are weddings, birthdays, promotions, championship games, graduation ceremonies, concerts, national parks, and bucket-list vacations. They’re often the moments we photograph the most and eagerly share with friends and family. Cinematic moments are something else entirely in life. They aren’t destinations but rather they’re scenes that we set for ourselves, intentionally or otherwise.

The coffee you grab before the concert, where you unexpectedly strike up a conversation and meet someone special, becomes more memorable than the concert itself. The quiet walk back to your hotel late at night, with the city lights guiding your way after visiting a famous landmark, stays with you longer than the attraction itself. The stranger you briefly talk to and instantly connect with on a train for hours telling each other your life story ends up becoming your favorite memory from the trip itself. They are unexpected gifts hidden within ordinary moments that quietly become extraordinary. Highlights tell the story of what we accomplished or where we went. Cinematic moments remind us how life felt along the way within our accomplishments.

The more I’ve traveled, the more I’ve noticed these moments appearing in places I never expected. Walking down a quiet street after an unexpected snowfall with no one else around except the sound of my boots pressing into fresh snow. Enjoying a coffee in a plaza in Medellín while teenagers laughed and shouted encouragement to one another during an impromptu soccer match. Sitting alone on a quiet stretch of beach in Ubatuba, Brazil, listening to nothing but the waves, the wind, and seabirds overhead. Watching the clouds briefly part at Mount Rainier just long enough to reveal the majestic summit before closing again. Even sitting in a busy airport terminal as travelers from every corner of the world cross paths beneath a glowing departure board can unexpectedly feel cinematic and has captivated my full attention many times over.

None of these moments were planned. None of them appeared on a trip itinerary. None of them could have been recreated if I had tried. I’ve come to realize that life’s most cinematic moments rarely announce themselves. They happen beneath train tracks, along airport approach paths, inside neighborhood cafés, on ferry rides, during aimless walks, and in places that most people pass through without a second thought. They last only five or ten minutes before disappearing forever. Perhaps that’s exactly what makes them so meaningful to experience and take note of.

We often measure our lives by the promotions earned, the money made, countries visited, races completed, or milestones reached. These life achievements deserve to be celebrated and remembered. However, I believe life is equally shaped by its quieter scenes, the moments when the lighting is right, the sounds around us blend, and the world briefly feels perfectly composed.

Those moments cannot be scheduled, purchased, or manufactured. Our only responsibility is to slow down enough to recognize them while we’re fortunate enough to still be standing inside the scene and remembering it later. After all, some of the greatest scenes in our lives will never make anyone else’s highlight reel. They’ll simply become part of our own lifelong soundtrack.